Still Tired
as it were...
I love the way a relatively short and seemingly straight forward song can have so many different meanings to different people, really interesting.
When I first heard the song I didn’t pick up on the longing of the narrator for the girlfriend he’s driving home, I see it now, but originally I thought he was just almost an objective outsider playing the ‘agony-aunt’ role again. Maybe because that’s a situation I find myself in all too often so I completely related! So I took his comments of ‘I can’t answer’ and ‘I can’t tell her’ as him just patiently listening to all her woes, but knowing he can’t really help, can’t solve anything because a relationship is such a private thing and his words wouldn’t help whatever he said. So it’s almost a resigned voice, weary of why two people can make each other so unhappy and yet not do anything about it. And then there are the split loyalties of him not wanting to take sides but perfectly understanding her upset, but knowing he just has to let them get on with it.
It just reminds me also of a situation where I was friends with a couple, liked the guy a bit more than I should and used to listen to his girlfriend complaining about him and I couldn’t say anything either. And of course they stayed together, wrapped up in their own little world.
The song also seems to evoke to me that weird time when you can suddenly find yourself sharing an incredibly emotional experience with someone you perhaps don’t know that well, and at the end of the tears there’s that almost strained embarrassment where you just want to get away- hence the shift to shaking hands politely after she’s poured her heart out.
When I first heard the song I didn’t pick up on the longing of the narrator for the girlfriend he’s driving home, I see it now, but originally I thought he was just almost an objective outsider playing the ‘agony-aunt’ role again. Maybe because that’s a situation I find myself in all too often so I completely related! So I took his comments of ‘I can’t answer’ and ‘I can’t tell her’ as him just patiently listening to all her woes, but knowing he can’t really help, can’t solve anything because a relationship is such a private thing and his words wouldn’t help whatever he said. So it’s almost a resigned voice, weary of why two people can make each other so unhappy and yet not do anything about it. And then there are the split loyalties of him not wanting to take sides but perfectly understanding her upset, but knowing he just has to let them get on with it.
It just reminds me also of a situation where I was friends with a couple, liked the guy a bit more than I should and used to listen to his girlfriend complaining about him and I couldn’t say anything either. And of course they stayed together, wrapped up in their own little world.
The song also seems to evoke to me that weird time when you can suddenly find yourself sharing an incredibly emotional experience with someone you perhaps don’t know that well, and at the end of the tears there’s that almost strained embarrassment where you just want to get away- hence the shift to shaking hands politely after she’s poured her heart out.