> I'm a single female (in my late 20s, ok early 30's) who has been depressed
> forever with many many failed, so-called relationships. Of course
> Morrissey has been a HUGH and MAJOR form of relief (as far as not feeling
> so alone living my absurd lifestyle). Thing is, its a bit annoying to feel
> this way and then go to a Morrissey show only to see loads of couples,
> singing along to "... and you leave on your own and..." (you
> know the rest). I've actually felt that way for 15 years and when I sing
> it - christ, i mean it. Im not saying they've NEVER felt this. Nor am I
> saying I have any more right to be a fan. I guess it's just such a kick in
> the gut to be presently going thru that pain and anger and then witness
> people walking hand in hand from a Morrissey show of all places..... a
> Celline show makes more sense.
> I'll shut up before I get myself in trouble by the lovebirds on this board
> (just kidding). I really just want to know if there's ANYONE who can
> relate???
I understand completely. Couples are just another, albeit minor, reason for me to avoid live performances. To be sure, there are a few artists whom I would enjoy seeing (Moz being one.) But, for me, music is fundamentally a solitary activity (then again, being a semi-recluse, what is'nt?) It is something to be enjoyed wistfully or with a few precious memories; nursing a glass (or bottle!) of burgundy. The kind of music I prefer does not recommend itself as a spectacle anyway --in this regard I am reminded of the conclusion of a Pitchfork review of Loren Connors' "The Departing of a Dream Vol. 1" (Vol. 3 is MUCH better!) ["And that's important to note. This album comes from and is geared toward solitude more than any album in recent memory; it almost seems obscene that this might be listened to by more than one person at a time. An album so completely gripped by a crushing sense of loneliness should probably carry some kind of warning label, to turn away people who actually socialize."]
I recognize that I miss out on the whole communal experience, embroiling oneself in the crowd and all of that...but really, I could not care less. If such were of value to me I would prefer singing hymns in church to the pagen dynamism of concerts.
Oh, and, at 31 I have been single for a decade. Surely more than many on this board combined.
P.S. Library couples are the worst. You may avert your eyes or attend to your reading but you can still HEAR them.
-Codreanu (Who, at the moment, feels a little like Holderlin in his tower.)
