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Monday July 18, 05

Witness to your life

05:48 PM

27 ways to know if you've found the right relationship for you

By Stacy D. Phillips
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There is nothing more glorious than falling in love! What a wonderful feeling it is, when, after all that searching and seeking, you finally hook up with that compatible mate. But wait! How can you know that the person you think is right for you, really right for you?

It's easy, well, maybe. All you have to do is make sure that you ask the appropriate questions -- queries that will help you establish how your likes and dislikes, and needs and wants, line up with those of your significant other (should that new love become truly significant in your life). And, of course, the reality has to match up to the answers to these questions.

At the right time and place, I suggest people exchange answers to the following questions:

1. Kids or no kids?
2. Smoking or no smoking?
3. Drinking or no drinking? (Same for drugs)
4. Religious beliefs: Match? Blend? Clash?
5. Who works? Who stays home (especially when the kids come along)?
6. Who wants to live where?
7. Who controls the checkbook?
8. What is his/her personal relationship with his/her family? Too distant? Too close?
      Too weird? Appropriate to your standards?
9. How are holidays spent? At home? With family? Alone? Vacationing?
10. Windows opened or closed? Heat/AC on or off?
11. What side of the bed must you (he/she) sleep on?
12. Where to spend vacations? Leisure time?
13. Sick: Left alone or babied?
14. Appropriate gift giving: birthdays? Yuletide holidays? Special occasions?
15. Who does what around the house?
16. What is acceptable hygiene?
17. What are his/her hobbies, pastimes?
18. Preferences: Music? Movie? Book favorites?
19. Favorite foods?
20. Pets or no pets? What kind?
21. Decisions about the children: School, church, discipline, allowance,
        extra curricular activities, friends, and curfew?
22. Mealtimes: Early or late?
23. Furniture: Vintage or Contemporary?
24. Sleeping habits: Four hours or eight?

Three more compatibility factors

If this list is not enough to help you determine whether or not your new love is right for you, try these as additional ways to size up the compatibility factor: How does your new love handle a crisis? Behave in public places? Treat your friends and family?

I also think you can tell a great deal about your new mate by the way he treats his mother and how she treats her father. Observing how a person regards that parent is key in establishing how he or she will treat you!

If you are in love -- if you've finally met Mr. or Ms. Right -- step back from all that awe and wonderment for a moment and get answers to all of the above. You will find out whether or not this new relationship (the one you've been looking for all this time) is one that will or will not last. As they say, love can be blind, but if it is going to last, love also has to be practical!

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  • And, of course, the reality has to match up to the answers to these questions.
    Wha? I think realitybites! hehe.

    The questions are nice, but there's too much leading...as if there's no room for describing furniture as "sturdy" or "comfortable"

    1. Kids or no kids? Match!
    2. Smoking or no smoking? Match!
    3. Drinking or no drinking? (Same for drugs) Match!
    4. Religious beliefs: Match? Blend? Clash? Match!
    5. Who works? Who stays home (especially when the kids come along)? Don't know.
    6. Who wants to live where? Don't know.
    7. Who controls the checkbook? Don't know.
    8. What is his/her personal relationship with his/her family? Too distant? Too close? Too weird? Appropriate to your standards? Match!
    9. How are holidays spent? At home? With family? Alone? Vacationing? Don't know.
    10. Windows opened or closed? Heat/AC on or off? Match!
    11. What side of the bed must you (he/she) sleep on? Doesn't matter.
    12. Where to spend vacations? Leisure time? Don't know.
    13. Sick: Left alone or babied?I'd guess Match!
    14. Appropriate gift giving: birthdays? Yuletide holidays? Special occasions? Match!
    15. Who does what around the house? Don't know.
    16. What is acceptable hygiene? Match!
    17. What are his/her hobbies, pastimes? Match!
    18. Preferences: Music? Movie? Book favorites? Match!
    19. Favorite foods? Don't know, but think match!
    20. Pets or no pets? What kind? Match!
    21. Decisions about the children: School, church, discipline, allowance, extra curricular activities, friends, and curfew? Don't know all.
    22. Mealtimes: Early or late? Don't know.
    23. Furniture: Vintage or Contemporary? Match!
    24. Sleeping habits: Four hours or eight? Don't know.

    14 Suspected Matches. 10 Don't knows. I guess I got some work aheada' me!
    alainsane -- Monday July 18 2005, @06:57PM (#171993)
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  • 1. Kids or no kids? - Match
    2. Smoking or no smoking? - Match
    3. Drinking or no drinking? (Same for drugs) - Match
    4. Religious beliefs? - Match
    5. Who works? Who stays home (especially when the kids come along)? - We both stay at home; the kids work, ha ha.
    6. Who wants to live where? - Flexible
    7. Who controls the checkbook? - We wrestle for it, lol.
    8. What is his/her personal relationship with his/her family? - Perfect
    9. How are holidays spent? At home? With family? Alone? Vacationing? - Flexible
    10. Windows opened or closed? Heat/AC on or off? - Match
    11. What side of the bed must you (he/she) sleep on? - Flexible (Well, maybe I like the right side.)
    12. Where to spend vacations? Leisure time? - Flexible (No camping outdoors for me though, hehe.)
    13. Sick: Left alone or babied? - Not sure?
    14. Appropriate gift giving: birthdays? Yuletide holidays? Special occasions? - Match
    15. Who does what around the house? - Flexible
    16. What is acceptable hygiene? - Match
    17. What are his/her hobbies, pastimes? - Match/accept
    18. Preferences: Music? Movie? Book favorites? - Match/accept
    19. Favorite foods? - Flexible/Match
    20. Pets or no pets? What kind? - Match
    21. Decisions about the children: School, church, discipline, allowance, extra curricular activities, friends, and curfew? - Not sure?
    22. Mealtimes: Early or late? - Flexible
    23. Furniture: Vintage or Contemporary? - Match
    24. Sleeping habits: Four hours or eight? - Flexible

    *25. Level of passion? - Match
    realitybites -- Monday July 18 2005, @10:21PM (#172026)
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  • Rather than who "controls the checkbook," shouldn't it be a question about the compatibility of what two people like to spend money on?

    Where's the political compatability question?

    Passion question, ditto.

    Also, how about a question that speaks to the compatibility of communication styles? If you have one person who speaks all in metaphors and another who can't tell a simile from a smilie face, isn't that going to cause communication problems?

    How 'bout some morality boundary questions, too?

    G'nite! :)
    alainsane -- Monday July 18 2005, @10:49PM (#172029)
    (User #460 Info)
    • Re:Claro que si by realitybites (Score:1) Monday July 18 2005, @11:20PM
      • Sotto Voce by alainsane (Score:1) Tuesday July 19 2005, @09:02AM
        • Re:Sotto Voce by realitybites (Score:1) Tuesday July 19 2005, @10:18AM
          • Re:Sotto Voce by alainsane (Score:1) Tuesday July 19 2005, @10:48AM
            • Re:Sotto Voce by realitybites (Score:1) Tuesday July 19 2005, @11:32AM


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