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Sunday January 16, 05

Not a sociopath? Well you may be a control freak instead.

10:09 PM

So what is a control freak?

A control freak is somebody whose own insecurities and fears cause problems for those who have to work or live with them. Nobody likes to be stifled and told what to do by an "I know better" person.

Do you tell your partner who his or her friends should be? Are you comfortable about letting them go places on their own, and be with their friends - without you - or does this make you worry or feel jealous? Do you criticize your partner frequently? Always finding faults? Do you get upset if your partner disagrees with you, having a totally different opinion on something important to you?

If you do, you are trying to control the relationship and your partner and this is unhealthy. This behavior will lose you many wonderful relationships unless you learn to deal with your insecurities, loosen up, and let go of the reins!

Take this short quiz to find out if you are a control freak.

      1. Do you feel uncomfortable about acknowledging that someone else's opinion or way of doing something may be better than your own?
      2. Being so wise, do you believe you know what is best for other people, your friends and family?
      3. Do you like to share your wisdom often - offering advice whether it's asked for or not?
      4. Do you worry that something is going to go wrong unless you keep an eye on it and have some control over events?
      5. Do you feel threatened by other people's opposing opinions or attitudes?
      6. Do you have an obsession about checking and re-checking the work you do, and the work others do?
      7. Do you have to do everything yourself, because nobody else can do it as well as you... only you know how to do it properly?
      8. What partners do you choose? Do you feel stressed or out of control in your relationships where give and take is required?
      9. Have you lost previous partners because you want everything your way?
    10. Is Bossy your middle name?

YOUR SCORE:
Mostly Yeses: You're probably a really nice person, and if everyone else understood that your need to control stemmed from your insecurities and fears, they'd cut you a little slack, yes? The problem is, with understanding or not, other people are going to become alienated unless you learn to "control" yourself! Stop trying to take over... practice being more flexible in your attitudes.

Mostly No's: What a confident soul you are! You know that despite what is going on around you, you realize that sometimes things will go wrong, this is life, and you are comfortable with trusting others to do their bit and comfortable with yourself knowing you have what it takes to deal with whatever comes your way.

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  • I think it's a crock of shite, realitybites. You're still a cool guy though. There should be more grey areas in it to score properly, though.
    Anonymous -- Sunday January 16 2005, @10:21PM (#147280)
  • Check your email, you silly bloke.

    the MM wannabe
    Anonymous -- Sunday January 16 2005, @10:28PM (#147282)
  • But can you help me out to find out if I am...=)

    1. Do you feel uncomfortable about acknowledging that someone else's opinion or way of doing something may be better than your own?
    "Hmm No Maybe sometimes..."
                2. Being so wise, do you believe you know what is best for other people, your friends and family?
    No
                3. Do you like to share your wisdom often - offering advice whether it's asked for or not?
    No Only if it is asked..
                4. Do you worry that something is going to go wrong unless you keep an eye on it and have some control over events?
    I did yes...
                5. Do you feel threatened by other people's opposing opinions or attitudes?
    No not at all.....
                6. Do you have an obsession about checking and re-checking the work you do, and the work others do?
    Only the work I do.. Not others.. But If I can help I would be happy to.
                7. Do you have to do everything yourself, because nobody else can do it as well as you... only you know how to do it properly?
    No, But I can , but just leave it be...
                8. What partners do you choose? Do you feel stressed or out of control in your relationships where give and take is required?
    No I am pretty mellow of what happens...
                9. Have you lost previous partners because you want everything your way?
    I guess I have! =(
            10. Is Bossy your middle name?
    no not anymore... its been a long while.. sadly...

    Thank you
    Marisela -- Monday January 17 2005, @12:42AM (#147299)
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  • I just noticed that you had a journal, I read some of your comments on the general page but I couldn't figure out how to respond then, then you were gone. I realised you had a journal and I wanted to ask you a question. okay, this is only an outside chance here, but are you the bloke that had the "Reality Bites" movie tshirt on in Fort Worth? Is that where your name came from or is it just a coincidence? (its a small world, you never know)
    send me a mail: [email protected]
    Anonymous -- Monday January 17 2005, @07:45AM (#147331)


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