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Thursday January 13, 05

Sociopath in the midst!

04:15 PM

I have met a true blue sociopath. I have read about them in my psychology textbooks, but never had the misfortune to interact with one until this last year. I was a victim to this person's sociopathological manipulations. I am free now and hopefully safe form harm. And, I am not talking about broken or freeyourself. But, you may know him.

Do you know this person -- Callous, deceitful, reckless, guiltless . . . The sociopath understands the wishes and concerns of others; he simply does not care . . . The sociopath believes that rules and morals are for other, weaker people who obey because they fear punishment . . . No matter how bright, and a sociopath is often very bright, he rarely maintains a regular job . . . he may have an ingratiating manner and superficial charm, be persuasive, poised . . . Lying, evasiveness, feigned forgetfulness, vague and inconsistent answers about his past...

Profile of a Sociopath

Since they appear apparently normal, they are not easily recognizable as deviant or disturbed. Although only a trained professional can make a diagnosis, it is important to be able to recognize the personality type in order to avoid further abuse. These traits also apply to a one-on-one cultic relationship.

Glibness/Superficial Charm
Language can be used without effort by them to confuse and convince their audience. Captivating storytellers that exude self-confidence, they can spin a web that intrigues others. Since they are persuasive, they have the capacity to destroy their critics verbally or emotionally.

Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They dominate and humiliate their victims.

Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as "their right." Craves adulation and attendance. Must be the center of attention with their own fantasies as the "spokesman for God," "enlightened," "leader of humankind," etc. Creates an us-versus-them mentality

Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and able to pass lie detector tests.

Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.

Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion, it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.

Incapacity for Love
While they talk about "God's love" they are unable to give or receive it. Since they do not believe in the genuineness of their followers' love, they are very harsh in testing it from their devotees and expect them to feel guilt for their failings. Expects unconditional surrender.

Need for Stimulation
Living on the edge, yet testing the beliefs of their followers with bizarre rules, punishments and behaviors. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal.

Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them. Their skills are used to exploit, abuse and exert power. Since the follower cannot believe their leader would callously hurt them, they rationalize the behavior as necessary for their (or the group's) own "good" and deny the abuse. When devotees become aware of the exploitation it feels like a "spiritual rape" to them.

Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others. The followers only see them as near perfect.

Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.

Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blame their followers or others outside their group. Blame reinforces passivity and obedience and produces guilt, shame, terror and conformity in the followers.

Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future. Many groups claim as their goal world-domination or other utopian promises. Great contrast between the leader's opulent lifestyle and the followers' impoverishment. Support by gifts and donations from the followers who are pressured to give through fear and guilt. Highly sensitive to their own pain and health.


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  • Very Intriguing. Do they use this site?
    Anonymous -- Thursday January 13 2005, @04:59PM (#146981)
    • Re:Hmm? by realitybites (Score:1) Thursday January 13 2005, @05:59PM
      • Re:Hmm? by Anonymous (Score:0) Thursday January 13 2005, @06:21PM
      • Re:Hmm? by Anonymous (Score:0) Thursday January 13 2005, @06:41PM
        • Re:Hmm? by Anonymous (Score:0) Sunday January 16 2005, @10:39PM
          • Re:Hmm? by realitybites (Score:1) Monday January 17 2005, @12:44AM
  • You are talking about MORRISSEY!
    Anonymous -- Thursday January 13 2005, @07:43PM (#147009)
  • I was xunrulygurlx ,and I used to be Mrs,Shankly.
    xhairdresseronfirex -- Thursday January 13 2005, @09:38PM (#147026)
    (User #13509 Info)
    "And on cold leather seats well it suddenly struck me.....I just might die with a smile on my face after all".
    • Re:hello! by realitybites (Score:1) Thursday January 13 2005, @10:01PM
  • The Socialised Psychopath or Sociopath

    Jekyll & Hyde personality
    always charming and plausible
    excels at deception (this must never be underestimated, but always is)
    excels at evasion of accountability
    is extremely and successfully manipulative of people's perceptions and emotions (eg guilt and anger)
    is callous, cold and calculating
    is devious, clever and cunning
    is skilled at identifying, undermining and destroying anyone who can see through the sociopath's mask of sanity
    has an extreme verbal facility and can outwit anybody in verbal conflict
    is adept at creating conflict between those who would otherwise pool negative information about the sociopath
    is adept at reflecting all accusations and attempts at accountability back onto their accusers
    gains gratification from provoking others into engaging in adversarial conflict
    once conflict has been initiated, the sociopath gains increased gratification by exploiting human beings' instinctive need to retaliate - this is achieved by encouraging and escalating peoples' adversarial conflicts into mutually assured destruction
    manipulates others into making fools of themselves in situations where they cannot back down or from which they cannot withdraw - these people become increasingly susceptible to further manipulation and are then trapped as pawns in the psychopath's game
    has no limits on his or her vindictiveness
    when faced with accountability or unwelcome attention which might lead to others discerning the sociopath's true nature, responds with repeated and escalating attempts to control, manipulate and punish
    is adept at appropriating rules, regulations, procedures and law to manipulate, control and punish accusers regardless of relevance, logic, facts or consequences
    the need to control, manipulate and punish develops into an obsession with many of the hallmarks of an addiction
    those persons subject to control, manipulation and punishment by the sociopath start to exhibit behaviour best described as disordered, dysfunctional, sullen, aggressive, defensive, hostile, retaliatory, counterproductive or cult like whereby disbelief, disavowal and denial become instinctive
    pursues endless vindictive vendettas against anyone perceived as a threat or who attempts, knowingly or unknowingly, to identify or reveal or expose the sociopath, or who makes efforts to hold the sociopath accountable
    persists in and pursues vindictive vendettas using self-evidently false evidence or information, even after this is brought to the attention of the sociopath
    is contemptuous of collateral damage and of the destructive consequences for all direct and indirect parties
    at all times restricts the actions and rights of others (especially those holding the sociopath accountable) whilst aggressively protecting his or her right to do anything without being hampered by social norms or legal requirements
    is skilled at mimicry
    is always identifying the behaviours and strategies to which other people respond with the desired effect
    is able to anticipate and credibly say what people want to hear
    is easily able to win people over before betraying them or deceiving them or ripping them off
    easily manipulates and bewitches an immature or naive or vulnerable or emotionally needy person to be their spokesperson or agent of aggression
    exploits anyone who has a vulnerability
    is pushy and extremely persuasive
    is sexually inadequate and sexually abusive
    frequently takes unnecessary and uncalculated risks but takes no account of his actions
    is unreliable and untrustworthy in every facet of life
    is likely to be leaking confidential information or secrets to third parties
    is likely to have committed or be committing breaches of harassment and discrimination law, employment law, contract law, etc
    cannot comprehend the deeper semantic meaning of language and is thus unable to understand metaphor, irony, satire etc (these elicit either zero response or a hostile response)
    realitybites -- Friday January 14 2005, @12:13AM (#147039)
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