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Monday January 10, 05

Where personality is all ya got?

08:36 PM

I was just thinking, what makes someone popular on an internet message board forum? In the real world, facial features, body shape, height, clothes, and race all play a role in how we are perceived, judged, and valued by our peer groups. But on a faceless forum, these things don't come into play. Or do they? It would seem as though personality is the only factor that determines whether or not a person is well liked. But, how and when does personality develop? It develops from birth on. And, it is shaped by our experiences and interactions with others. So, if in real life you are attractive, dress nicely, are the desired race, height etc., of your culture, then you will be rewarded with praise. This will have a positive effect on your self-worth. You will become less shy and more confident. As time goes by, and you receive more and more recognition for these outward characteristics, you will also develop an outgoing, happy personality to match your great appearance. So, by the time you are in your twenties, and you join a message board forum, you will have a winning personality to post with. And, everybody will claim that they like you just for your personality. For, they can't see your face. Ah, but if they could only take that time machine back into your development as an individual. Wouldn't they see that APPEARANCE has everything to do with why you are the most popular person on the forum -- after all?

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  • Arbie, what are you on about?
    LOL
    Where did that come from? I likes it, though, I likes it.
    swedo78 <[email protected]> -- Monday January 10 2005, @08:47PM (#146571)
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    She said, "Eh, I know you, and you cannot sing," and I said, "that's nothing, you should hear me play piano..."
  • ... I think you may be wrong. On some of those points, that is. Winning personalities and good looks don't always go together -- sometimes the personality of a person develops because they're not the best-looking/most popular.

    As I said before, the nicest, most empathetic people I've ever met are always the ones who've gone through the most difficult times. (But were they good-looking? Yes, some of the time!)

    Ok, now I'm talking in circles, lol. But I think you see where I'm going. ;)
    swedo78 <[email protected]> -- Monday January 10 2005, @08:50PM (#146572)
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    She said, "Eh, I know you, and you cannot sing," and I said, "that's nothing, you should hear me play piano..."
  • RB:
    "So, if in real life you are attractive, dress nicely, are the desired race, height etc., of your culture, then you will be rewarded with praise. This will have a positive effect on your self-worth. You will become less shy and more confident. As time goes by, and you receive more and more recognition for these outward characteristics, you will also develop an outgoing, happy personality to match your great appearance. So, by the time you are in your twenties, and you join a message board forum, you will have a winning personality to post with. And, everybody will claim that they like you just for your personality. For, they can't see your face."

    Swedo 78:
    As I said before, the nicest, most empathetic people I've ever met are always the ones who've gone through the most difficult times. (But were they good-looking? Yes, some of the time!)

    I'd have to agree with Swedo, Realitybites. The parts above in bold are something I disagree with as my own experience puts me in the category of what Swedo said: "the ones who've gone through the most difficult times." I'd always played down my own looks all through my 20's; and despite the compliments of others I withdrew even more into my shyness, lol, and into books. I do believe when one's formative years are rife with "difficults times" it does prevent one from having "an outgoing, happy personality to match your great appearance" - I am not outgoing and do not have a happy personality, and as for my appearance - I am no longer embarrassed when someone pays me a compliment, but, I feel more "rewarded" when others appreciate me for my kindness and intellect.
    J. Razor -- Monday January 10 2005, @10:10PM (#146578)
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    • Re:My Opinion by realitybites (Score:1) Monday January 10 2005, @10:31PM
      • Re:My Opinion by J. Razor (Score:1) Monday January 10 2005, @10:54PM
        • Re:My Opinion by swedo78 (Score:1) Monday January 10 2005, @11:01PM
          • Re:My Opinion by J. Razor (Score:1) Monday January 10 2005, @11:18PM
        • Re:My Opinion by realitybites (Score:1) Monday January 10 2005, @11:32PM
          • Re:My Opinion by J. Razor (Score:1) Monday January 10 2005, @11:42PM
            • Re:My Opinion by realitybites (Score:1) Monday January 10 2005, @11:50PM
              • Thank God! by swedo78 (Score:1) Tuesday January 11 2005, @12:08AM
              • Re:Thank God! by realitybites (Score:1) Tuesday January 11 2005, @12:31AM


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