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Saturday November 27, 04

What is friendship?

10:03 AM

I was inspired to write this after reading J. Razor's comment in my journal this morning. She has been an active member of Solo for five years. That is a long time to commit oneself to a community. She has shared herself - her passions, fears, likes, and dislikes with the posters here. She has given her heart and soul.

She stopped writing in her journal in July because of the controversy that developed involving the "Friend's List." It seems that the forum was very political at one point and maybe still is. Am I walking in a field of land mines by posting here?

So what is an online friend anyway? How do you know if you can trust the people you interact with on a forum? Would you also need to exchange real names, addresses, phone numbers etc., before you could fully trust them? Would you need to speak on the telephone, IM one another? What is the defining criteria? What is the difference between an online acquaintance and an online friend?

How much does an online community mean in one's life? If you stopped posting after a year, or five years, would you be devasted if not a single person noticed your absence?

Can we grow to truly love the people we meet online?

Here is another song for J. Razor, my journal buddy. Thanks for your honest and kind words.

Let Down by Radiohead

Transport, motorways and tramlines,
Starting and then stopping,
Taking off and landing,
The emptiest of feelings,
Disappointed people, clinging on to bottles,
And when it comes it’s so, so, disappointing.

Let down and hanging around,
Crushed like a bug in the ground.
Let down and hanging around.

Shell smashed, juices flowing
Wings twitch, legs are going,
Don’t get sentimental,
It always ends up drivel.
One day, I’m gonna grow wings,
A chemical reaction,
Hysterical and useless
Hysterical and

Let down and hanging around,
Crushed like a bug in the ground.
Let down and hanging around.

Let down,
Let down,
Let down.

You know, you know where you are with,
You know where you are with,
Floor collapsing, falling, bouncing back
And one day, I’m gonna grow wings,
A chemical reaction, [you know where you are,]
Hysterical and useless [you know where you are,]
Hysterical and [you know where you are,]

Let down and hanging around,
Crushed like a bug in the ground.
Let down and hanging around.

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  • Seems to me you're attempting to stir back to life former Morrissey-Solo journalists. People who are pretty much online poltergeists -- and who are apparently quite happily alive offline -- into coming back to remember uglier times! If so, that's really very shameful.

    The past is dead.
    Anonymous -- Saturday November 27 2004, @11:41AM (#140222)
    • Re:Hmmm... by realitybites (Score:1) Saturday November 27 2004, @12:24PM
  • Hello:
    Well I have been coming in here since 97. But have just recently started a journal here..
    I really dont know what went on, but My expirience tell me that lots of drams has gone on through these pages.

    Unfortunatly, Many things have happened In the Solo world, But I have survived, My Love for Morrissey has just been greater is all, and that knowing so many wonderful fans no matter who they are come in here has kept me coming.
    I can totally understand what you mean about walking in a mind field, as you said...But, Yet I try to remember that this is just a Journal.. For I write in it what want and feel I have to say for myself.. and leave it open for comments.
    I do not spill out my guts because I do not even do that In the world outside, I do not trust just anyone and if i do, and when i do, i know why i do.
    I hope you understand that!=)

    Online friends, Yes they are possible, take lots of patients and for you to enjoy typing and makeing explaining yourself to known. That is not an easy task. For you must know how to place people I place them in categories brother, sister, guys, girls, men or women. I have met and know many persons. And I am fortunate to have such passionate persons I can trust and share even my most intiimate feeling with. This is my expirience.
    LOL, Oh I remember this one time it was Awfull, at the time, But We losts trust because of a terrible sceamer that minipulated Solo for a long time.. That was sad, but some time later we made amends , fortunatly. Although our trust was bashed and we did not keep on talking. Later I found out this person was actually nothing what i thought they were. For I was so unexpirienced on being online..
    But like I said At the time it was terrible. :)

    "acquaintance and an online friend?"
    Well there will always be people you have met, but, would not like to be part of the people you would feel you want around to much,right? Same thing, Some Online friends well to me when I concider that person my friend is because I have seen something that I liked.. Not sexual wise, But something that is Interesting and this I like for me.
    So there are friends and their is Aquaintences.
    For Me to give you my phone number well I have to have yes, learned to trust in you for some reason or another.. But even then, I do have an ignore pulse. Oh, the ones that have left well they always seem to come back.:) Sometime wether here or in the chatroom, somehow.:)
    It Morrissey!=)

    "Can we grow to truly love the people we meet online? "

    Like I said there are many types of love.
    Love for a girl, guy, man, teenager, oldie but goodie..=)

    I love technology, But it can be used for bad or good like any great invention, for example the phone it has been used for bad or good. Same thing with How we act on solo. Whether we have one, two, three or 100 log in names. sad to say some are truly cybil instincts. It was an old movie I seen when I was a little girl . Sally Fields played a girl with many personalities.
    See people choose what they want around here.. and If you look carefully you will see that you can wrap up a good 50 names with one person;)

    See I dont know who you are nor if you are sincere, But I liked what you posted.

    Darn I feel embarrased for posting soooo much..For i can go on and on about this!=)

    Anyhow,great great topic.

    Hold On to you friends*** :)
    Marisela -- Sunday November 28 2004, @02:04AM (#140333)
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  • j razor is a she and not a he? are you sure you are new here?
    Anonymous -- Sunday November 28 2004, @05:02PM (#140433)
  • Re: "She has shared herself - her passions, fears, likes, and dislikes with the posters here. She has given her heart and soul."

    LOL, really?!?! I had no idea I'd spilt so much of myself on here...oh, well, where is there a better place to share one's self than on the Morrissey site of Morrissey sites?

    Thank you, again, RB, for your kind words.
    J. Razor -- Monday November 29 2004, @01:28PM (#140514)
    (User #724 Info)
    I'm Alone
  • Re: The 10-year old grilled cheese sandwich for auction on Ebay; it sold for $28,000! I read about it in our local Sunday paper, and remembered you'd made an entry about it. At any rate, the columnist suggests googling it for "a slew of reports."

    Hmm, if I had that kind of $$ the last thing on my list to buy would be said sandwich...the world is, indeed, a looney place!
    J. Razor -- Monday November 29 2004, @01:49PM (#140522)
    (User #724 Info)
    I'm Alone
    • Re:F y i by realitybites (Score:1) Tuesday November 30 2004, @08:09AM

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