I have two blog entries that are hidden from view. Not really on purpose though. They are private because once a post is saved as a draft it cannot be deleted. It will forever take up space on davidt's servers. Sure I can change the title and delete the contents, but there will always be a marker there.
In these two hidden posts, the titles are still the same. And the contents are unaltered. I have not made them public for various reasons. One was a poem from many months ago. I felt it was too sappy to share. Another, written just recently, I decided, is too negative. And I am trying to be more positive these days. Can you tell?
I have made a new friend whose attitude is rubbing off on me. I am finding it uncomfortable to be angry and argumentative as of late. Not that I have given up debating. No way. I still have a passion for heated discussion. But I just don't have the inclination or energy to fight with dimwits any longer. It is a waste of my time and completely futile. Too bad it took me so long to learn and accept this. Live and learn, right?
Secret blog posts mean that blogs are edited. That is right. Sometimes we don't post everything we write. Sometimes we change our minds about making our ideas public and permanent. We step back and wait and take a breather and sleep on it, we decide it best to refrain—to hold back and exercise discretion. This little trick can also be used out on the forums. Davidt gave me some advice not long ago. I hope he doesn't mind me quoting him here and now. He said, "Try not to post when you are emotional." That is some great advice, no? And if we all followed suit, the forums would be a little sweeter I gather.
But looking out there... just a few moments ago, they actually DO look sweeter... kinder and gentler. What is up with that? My guess is that people have been monitoring themselves. Censoring. Self-censoring, that is. Exercising a little self control—impulse control. Our first impulse is to react. Best to not react but to reflect first. Secret blog posts are all about reflection. And editing. We can all be editors. It is not easy, I know. But dang, I already feel a little less toxic by keeping away from the garbage. And producing less myself.
PS - For those that find the forums dull without all the fighting and melodrama, go turn on the TV and watch a soap or a reality program. Solo is not a circus with clowns to entertain you. It isn't a show. If you find the place too boring for your liking, well you know what they say about bored folks?
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