I have lived and been alone. I have had relationships fail. I have a relationship that is a success at this moment. Prior to this current relationship I had thought about what an ideal person should be in my relationship.
As I sat with a friend in a cafe in my 20's, we batted around this notion of an ideal person for me. He shocked me by saying, "so, for the ideal characteristics you want in another person, are you willing to demonstrate those same characteristics in yourself for them!".
I must admit, upon review, there was an inequality from what I wanted in a person to what I was willing to give and be. I truly believe that it wasn't until this moment of assisted realization that I found out what my responsibility is. I am to be the person I wanted to be by being the ideal I wanted in another person.
I have a high mark of expectation for my companion. Hence, this is a requirement that I have high expectations of myself. Once I started being ideal for me, the ideal person came into my life.
As I sat with a friend in a cafe in my 20's, we batted around this notion of an ideal person for me. He shocked me by saying, "so, for the ideal characteristics you want in another person, are you willing to demonstrate those same characteristics in yourself for them!".
I must admit, upon review, there was an inequality from what I wanted in a person to what I was willing to give and be. I truly believe that it wasn't until this moment of assisted realization that I found out what my responsibility is. I am to be the person I wanted to be by being the ideal I wanted in another person.
I have a high mark of expectation for my companion. Hence, this is a requirement that I have high expectations of myself. Once I started being ideal for me, the ideal person came into my life.
