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as i was watching Ellen and her lover Anne Hache describe to Larry King what their journey into lesbianism was like, it comes off as a very personal experience.
Ellen tried sleeping with a guy and knew it wasn't right. She said in high school she never slept with anyone and she thought it was because she was a "good girl". Nothing there really drove her to do the deed, and when she finally did, she understood. Anne on the other hand actually had romances where she was deeply in love with men, but has taken up with Ellen.
Some people say that they have known all their lives that something wasn't right with them. Other people have been married for years and it suddenly hit them that they were in love with Martina Navratilova...oh, I can't think of her lover's name, but you know who I'm talking about.
Patti Smith claimed she tried to sleep with a woman, but found their bodies too soft and she preferred the muscle of a man. It didn't turn her on. Lou Reed, on the other hand, despite having serious girl friends and actually being married, had many male lovers. Some men he took up with was out of nothing more than to have a sexual release. There was no emotional love, and he didn't consider himself part of a couple with many of these guys, but he did it anyway.
Despite Morrissey saying there is no difference, "I can have both" definitely sounds like someone who is having inner turmoil. From the way it's worded, the impression comes out that he had only accepted one way and has to re-train his thinking. "He doesn't know he can have both" is pretty damning. A guy who pretty much had cut out the other half of the equation for a long period of time. A guy who began embracing boxing as an art of manliness. A person enthralled and taken by something that until the last year or two, was only a male sport. He equated this violent display as the top form of what a man could be. Whenever you read what he says about boxing, you get a sense he loves the male nature of the sport. It's not the violence. If he saw the genders as no different than one another, then this shouldn't really matter what is male. In fact, nothing should be "male" to him as a sport, article of clothing, or even life style, but it is.
Despite the fact that he did have many relationships with girls earlier in his life, things changed. Jake was the first he probably felt comfortable with. The object he publicly displayed and held up as his new life. From what we can see, no one person had been able to tap into him in such a way as to radically alter what he was.
Despite what his last songs have been about, I don't think he's really grasped the situation to a point where he is comfortable enough with it. With "Swallow" he states that he knew from the moment it happened. With "I can have both" he doesn't really know. He can have it, as he says, but does he feel comfortable with having both? No. That's why he can't make up his mind between hanging around and watching or going in and participating.
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as i was watching Ellen and her lover Anne Hache describe to Larry King what their journey into lesbianism was like, it comes off as a very personal experience.
Ellen tried sleeping with a guy and knew it wasn't right. She said in high school she never slept with anyone and she thought it was because she was a "good girl". Nothing there really drove her to do the deed, and when she finally did, she understood. Anne on the other hand actually had romances where she was deeply in love with men, but has taken up with Ellen.
Some people say that they have known all their lives that something wasn't right with them. Other people have been married for years and it suddenly hit them that they were in love with Martina Navratilova...oh, I can't think of her lover's name, but you know who I'm talking about.
Patti Smith claimed she tried to sleep with a woman, but found their bodies too soft and she preferred the muscle of a man. It didn't turn her on. Lou Reed, on the other hand, despite having serious girl friends and actually being married, had many male lovers. Some men he took up with was out of nothing more than to have a sexual release. There was no emotional love, and he didn't consider himself part of a couple with many of these guys, but he did it anyway.
Despite Morrissey saying there is no difference, "I can have both" definitely sounds like someone who is having inner turmoil. From the way it's worded, the impression comes out that he had only accepted one way and has to re-train his thinking. "He doesn't know he can have both" is pretty damning. A guy who pretty much had cut out the other half of the equation for a long period of time. A guy who began embracing boxing as an art of manliness. A person enthralled and taken by something that until the last year or two, was only a male sport. He equated this violent display as the top form of what a man could be. Whenever you read what he says about boxing, you get a sense he loves the male nature of the sport. It's not the violence. If he saw the genders as no different than one another, then this shouldn't really matter what is male. In fact, nothing should be "male" to him as a sport, article of clothing, or even life style, but it is.
Despite the fact that he did have many relationships with girls earlier in his life, things changed. Jake was the first he probably felt comfortable with. The object he publicly displayed and held up as his new life. From what we can see, no one person had been able to tap into him in such a way as to radically alter what he was.
Despite what his last songs have been about, I don't think he's really grasped the situation to a point where he is comfortable enough with it. With "Swallow" he states that he knew from the moment it happened. With "I can have both" he doesn't really know. He can have it, as he says, but does he feel comfortable with having both? No. That's why he can't make up his mind between hanging around and watching or going in and participating.
ode to silliness
