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Why Me?
Does anyone have any advice on making friends ? I am very shy and really don't know how to make friends. I find I freeze if I try to make chit chat with people or I just really don't know what to say. Apart from my husband and kids I have no friends... oh God I sound like a right saddo
That's why I have enjoyed discovering moz solo, because with people here I can share an interest, have a laugh and be myself.
How do I do this day to day ? How do I find someone to share a joke with over coffee ?
Please be gentle, it took a lot of courage to post this.
Chit chat is useless, and only serves to waste time. If you want to find people like you, then look for them in places where you frequent. Are you a sports fan? Look for people like you at sporting events. Hockey, football, baseball games. Do your children participate in sports or activities? Same things. Perhaps other mothers have the same problem as you, and would welcome a friend.
Try getting a hobby you genuinely enjoy. The best way to make a friend or someone you can talk to is to find them doing something you genuinely enjoy doing. Try participating in an activity or joining a club. If you have any interests or hobbies then follow them up in a social environment. You may be surprised to find that most of the people there are there for the same reasons you are, and are just as nervous.
And lastly, learn to love yourself. If you can't be alone and be happy with silence and the sound of your own thoughts, then how can you be happy with another person? I mean this seriously. If you don't like who you are, your own company, wit, mental stimulation and being then how do you expect anyone else to like you?
Learn to like yourself, learn confidence through that and the rest will come naturally. Trust me.