Happy Maudlin
Corinthian and Caricature
I didn't speak to my mother since 1998. It's quite sad really, but we just don't get on and never have - I was always the outsider in that house. I started writing to my parents recently, just kind of breezy polite notes saying what I'm up to but I never hear back. Even if I did I don't think I'd want to meet up with them, me and them in the same room just isn't meant to be. I can't understand why some people have children only to act like that towards them. I used to be a mess over it when I was younger but I'm over that now. The only thing that scares me is what will happen when they die - how it will feel, and whether I'll even find out. It was kind of drummed into me from a young age that family is a meaningless concept so I find it easy enough to accept, but it still makes me sad sometimes if I'm honest. But as some of the stories on this thread indicate, there's no point flogging a dead horse just to keep up appearances. My mum reminds me of Ann Robinson in character...which is quite good for a quiz show, but not so much to grow up with.
It's funny because in order to be completely honest with myself and free I have to cut the umbilical cord so to speak and be forced from estrangement from my mummy. My older sister is already not talking to me on a regular basis like she used to and the last conversation was tense. I don't expect joy exuding from her voice to note my presence any time soon. I think it is really sad that you don't speak to your mom but by reading the rest of your reply, it is best you don't. It is the desire within us to have acceptance from our parent's which reflects our need to feel accepted by society at large. If I am an outcast in my own God-damn home (in which I was when I was as a teenage and probably still am) I will be considered outcast elsewhere. And this created some deep-rooted and annoying insecurities. And the prideful keeping up with appearances thing is another issue I face with my mummy. This feeling is inextricable. I don't know how to explain her psychological prejudices against me, but I will find a shrink who will verbalize and manipulate my grievances for me soon.
And this ain't the half of it. I did not even mention her religiosity.
Oh and my mother loves me too. As they all say