Hi Iona, I totally understand why you can't reply straight away. I don't have any children so I have more time on my hands. I've been reading up about about 'psychological manipulation' which is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or even abusive tactics. It is also called 'emotional manipulation'. That is what they did to me. It's also about wanting power or control of someone. xx