Life, Family

  1. Carpe Diem!

    I don't believe in godsends, angels, karma, fate, or destiny. But sometimes things just fall into place, our luck seems to have no bounds. What do we account for these things? Chance? Coincidence? Perhaps. All I know is that when opportunity knocks, answer the door and be sure you have your makeup on and gas in the car. In other words, be ready to go for it. Do all your homework, prep work, emotional work... lots of work. Hard work. Effort yields results. Dream. Believe. Achieve.
  2. Vulnerable

    Intimacy. Someone once told me that intimacy is in-to-me-you-see. You would think a blog is by it's very nature a platform for sharing intimate feelings and thoughts. But more often than not, it is actually a wall that separates self from world. It is a carefully controlled construct, a barrier to intimacy. If I tell you how I think before you ask, then you don't get to frame the question. It's overcoming objections before they arise. However, I now want to share something personal. I...
  3. He Said I Am Stoic

    He said I am stoic, rarely if ever showing my emotions. Funny, I always thought that I wore my heart on my sleeve. Maybe, just maybe, he meant that I don't let them see me sweat. This could be true, I suppose. I guess my coat of armor is solid and thick—these days. Or, perhaps it always was. Could be that I was born to do battle—genetically equipped with the traits to tackle crisis after crisis, heartbreak after heartbreak, and survive it all. Even thrive on hardship. On this journey...
  4. Rules of Begging

    Police log for Flagstaff AZ, July 14, 2012.: "A 49-year-old homeless man was arrested for panhandling on Thursday and booked into the Coconino County Detention Facility. An officer in plainclothes was walking in the area of Humphreys Street and Butler Avenue when he was approached by a homeless man. The two spoke for several minutes before the man asked the officer if he could spare some change, a police report said. The officer asked the man how much and he replied "two bucks for food."...
  5. Bucket List Revisited

    Here's my (kick the) Bucket List ~ So Far: Go to London Become a grandmother Publish a book Have my art displayed in public areas Find a best friend Be free of regret Drive a racing boat Have a love affair with Keanu Reeves Publish an illustrated children's book (* New addition 6/1/11) Well, I have good reason to celebrate, indeed! I can cross off an item from my Bucket List. Want to guess which one? I’ll give you a clue, Amazon.com. I am officially a published author. You can...
  6. RidicuList

    I’m adopting Anderson Cooper’s concept RidicuList. This week I have three things to nominate to the list of ridiculousness. First, a man browsing books and offering an ignorant statement at the library. At my last visit to my local library, I dropped off some books to a table outside, to be donated to anyone who would have them. There was a great deal of books there already, so I decided to take a look and see if there was anything of interest. There was. A few seconds later, two men...
  7. Shifting Gears

    So much negativity. Some people can bring out the worst in me. Others can bring out the best. Women. They can be tough nuts to crack. Perhaps the stereotype of them being petty, catty, jealous, envious, and competitive with one another has some merit. As has been demonstrated here on Solo. Numerous times. I like women. I do. But I seem to become the target of their wrath, for some reason. Perhaps for those reasons previously mentioned. Whatever the case may be, I find this disheartening....
  8. Holy Tomato!

    *Updates at bottom of page. Whoa, my plants are huge—both standing over four feet tall! Bud has twenty tomatoes so far. Ben has 19. Update June 20: If my babies survive this heat I will be a lucky mama. It is going to be 107 today. Just gave them two gallons of water each. Four yesterday. Leaves are frying in the dry heat. May only get one run from these plants. But... looks like I will have some juicy, ripe tomatoes for the 4th of July. :) June 26: June 28, after three months...
  9. Out and About

    This morning, I finally met my neighbor. He moved into the apartment across from me about three months ago. We both laughed and smiled as we were both opening our doors and making our exits from our apartments. Nice guy--around my age, I think. My apartment building is occupied by single, private, professionals. I really have only met two other folks so far. But to be honest, I'm glad we all keep to ourselves. It's nice and quiet and peaceful this way. After leaving the apartment, I...
  10. Life is a Moving Train

    My emotions are all over the map at the moment. I feel excited with anticipation. I feel worried about a friend. I feel embarrassed for being ignorant. Life. It is a fast moving train. The scenery can, and does, change on a dime. Nothing stays the same. Nothing is permanent. Things come and go. And things pass. It is out of our control. So we might as well just try to enjoy the ride.
  11. Desert Life... and Shoes

    *Update ~ Just added an audio capture of the coyotes howling outside my window. Scroll down and click howling link. Its early... 6:40 AM. I woke at 5:00 AM. Oh don't ask why. It is chilly this morning. Yesterday was the first day since April that I have not run the air conditioner. Fall... is it finally here? It's hard to tell. This desert life is a strange one indeed. Hot summers. Cold winters. Coyotes howling outside my window at night. Thank goodness my Katie is a house cat. Otherwise...
  12. Delusion Busting

    I am a delusion buster. Whenever I can, I tear down illusions and pull apart delusions. Why? Because I am a rationalist—a natural skeptic. I think it is due to both genetics and environment. My mom is also pragmatic. She is my significant role model. As a parent, there is a fine line between being a delusion buster and being a dream crusher. One doesn't want to stifle her child's imagination—only keep it grounded in reality. You want your kid to express his/her creativity and have hope...
  13. Fleeting Landscapes

    Flashback, post number four and last one. These blog entries center around the little things in life and those fleeting moments... What is more fleeting than a sunrise? Taken outside my apartment on the early morning of November 2, 2012. The first one is from March 26, 2005... I still love The Cure. And have been listening to them a lot over the last few weeks. This one is from November 23, 2006... Fleeting moments... still grateful for so many things. Time changes the scenery, but...
  14. Katie and Other Things I am Thankful For

    Happy Thanksgiving 2014. To celebrate this year, I am acknowledging FOURTEEN things I am thankful for. 1. My family. I love them very much. And feel closer to my mom and son every day. They give my life meaning, hope, connection, grounding, joy, security, love, humor, and much more. 2. Katie, my best feline friend and companion. Never have I loved a pet so dearly and for such a long time. We have a history together. She brings happiness to my life daily. 3. My coworkers. I work with...
  15. The Passing of Time

    In just a few weeks, it will be eight years since I started my blog at Solo. I really can't believe I stayed committed to writing in it for all these years. In 2011, my blog was published as a book in both electronic and print formats. But much of what had been written in the earlier years didn't make the cut. So over the next two weeks, I am going to recycle some of my older posts. The first one I'd like to share is from November 2, 2007--five years ago. The second one is from September...
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