Life, Family

  1. Hello Darkness My Old Friend

    I am in a rut. Physically, emotionally, and psychologically. I hate to quote Dr. Phil as he is now a cliched buffoon—as far as I am concerned. But he does have one catchphrase which has stuck with me since he came onto the scene many moons ago: How's that working for you? My answer: It isn't. Nothing is working for me. Here is another cliched quote: The definition of insanity is repeating the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. One more for good measure: When one...
  2. Survivors' Guilt

    I'm a survivor. I have survived two major medical illnesses. Why have I arrived on the other side whereas others with similar illnesses have lost the battle or are continuing to fight for their lives—daily, hourly? Why me? Why not me? When I got spinal cancer at age 16, I could have felt pity for myself. Instead I decided not to be a victim but rather a warrior. I was going to live, dammit. Thirty years later, I remain cancer free. I have a few scars—battle wounds—but I am walking and...
  3. Prolific Penelope

    Took these a few minutes ago. She has twenty-two tomatoes and dozens of blossoms. Eight of her tomatoes are the size of a small peach. Isn't she gorgeous. Taken yesterday after a rain shower: A little info on Penny: Phoenix Tomato Update 9/1: Penny now has 26 tomatoes! Each are expected to weigh 10 to 12 ounces. That is over fifteen pounds! I need to get a mini fruit/veggie scale. Her largest tomato:
  4. If I Get a Lobotomy Will You Love Me?

    *Update 5/16/2011: This post was kind of experimental in nature. It was meant to be raw and cathartic. Not sure how successful I was. It is also a companion piece, meant to be read along with my next post If You Were Brilliant Could I Love You? So often, when we write--especially me, we check for spelling, grammar, and content. And we censor ourselves. It was risky putting my thoughts out there regarding relationships. I feel naked. But I also feel relieved. End of update.* I have...
  5. Cyberspace When You're Dead

    I stumbled upon a wonderful article in the New York Times. It was written this last January but the information is still fresh and valid. The article addresses the issue of cyberspace after death—what happens to our digital lives when we die? A lot of people don’t like to think about death—so much so that they put off getting a will made until the last minute—if at all. So thinking about a will for one’s digital assets isn’t something most folks spend Sunday afternoons pondering. I, however,...
  6. If it is true that you are what you eat, then I am mostly cabbage and rice

    I have been eating a lot of cabbage lately—bok choy and green. I chop it up and sautée it in a little oil in a dutch oven on the stove top. After it caramelizes, I add lots of black pepper and some cubed ham (optional). Then I pour in a little water, cover, and steam it for ten minutes. I eat it over basmati or long grain rice. The rice soaks up the liquid. Delicious. I also eat quite a bit of romaine-based salads. I eat very little dairy—cheese every once in a while (lactose intolerance)....
  7. My baby's coming home!

    My son is coming up from Phoenix for the holiday. Can't wait. Going shopping today for all my supplies. Gonna go all out like I did two years ago. Will go see Catching Fire with him on Friday. Should be great fun. We have a ball when we are together. He is so easy going, never gets angry, has a wonderful sense of humor, great at compromising, a great listener, expresses his thoughts and feelings very well, and is very philosophical and perceptive. One couldn't ask for a better son. I know...
  8. Memory Box

    I have a box of memories of my brother Jeff. It contain a small album of childhood photos, a memory candle, a CD of photos of him as an adult, items from the memorial service, and a small urn of his ashes. In 2005, I sealed this box with packing tape. My box is with me--not in storage like so many of my other things--because it is something I value dearly. It is all I have of my brother who committed suicide in 2005. This event was so traumatic, so life altering, that it was all I could...
  9. My Writings ~ PDF Downloads

    I just put together a third PDF book titled, realitybites Returns. It contains all my blog entries from where realiybites back left off up until today. If you want to read it you can download it here: realitybites Returns free PDF download And here are some other PDFs you might want to download, or not: realitybites free PDF download realitybites back free PDF download Eleven Poems Just the Poems An Atheist in God's Sandbox Hilariously Depressing Moz Lyrics
  10. My Brilliant Year

    This is my year, my time to shine. I have never felt so ambitious, focused, determined, powerful, calm, happy, and deserving. This is my second stage—a new beginning. My career prospects have never been better or more rewarding. I've made some wonderful friends and truly feel like I am a part of a community. I love my city—the weather, the people. By this time next year I'll be so shiny your eyes will burn just looking at me.
  11. Anonymous Sometimes

    My can things change in two and a half years. With new information, our paradigms may shift. In August 2011, I wrote a bog entry titled The Filter Bubble. It has been read by posters here and at least one person has used it as ammunition in an argument. In other words, thrown it back in my face, if I was ever critical of anonymous posting. Seemed that my little polemic had locked me into a position. So now, today, I am rectifying my position—reaffirming how I feel about anonymous posting...
  12. OKCrazy

    Oh my gawd. Last night, right before I was about to crawl into bed, I got a message from 'Ben' on OKCupid. He and I had had a week-long series of exchanges. Nice enough guy. Too much baggage. Still married, yet separated—only since December, though. Sorry bud, you are clearly on the rebound. Give it time. You need to heal. Learn. Regroup. Moving to the next thing too soon, will surely have you repeating the same mistakes. Anyhow, so I last had contact with him about a week ago, until last...
  13. What the heck is going on around here?

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  14. Spring Has Sprung

    Last Sunday I planted two new tomato plants. This season I decided to place them below the porch--up on crates--rather than on the porch. Meet Ben. He is a Better Boy hybrid. This is Bud. He is a Big Beef hybrid. I will update this post soon. And keep you abreast of their progress. 3/27: Both Ben and Bud are 13" and look very strong and healthy. 4/3: Bud has taken off. He now stands 18". Ben is trailing behind at 14". 4/11: Bud stands 21". Ben is at 17". 4/19: Bud ~ 25"....
  15. Google+

    Having a hard time getting onto Google+? Need an invite? Google Plus has just started a new feature whereby users can give out invites to 150 people. This is the link to an invite for anyone itching to join. There are over 100 invites available. Once you join, please pay it forward by also giving out invites to random folks so that they too will have the opportunity to join.
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