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01:37 PM
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get your payment from the nation....
for your trials and tribulations....
I'm sure most of us can drudge up some bad memories.... most of us have had hard times or series's (seri? seriess? whatever) of unfortunate events occur at times throughout our lives.....
my family certainly has.....
yet we don't dwell on them... we know exactly what they are..... but we also know how lucky we are..... we know that no matter how bad things have got, they inevitably got better... we know that no matter how poor we were or felt, we weren't on the verge of starvation or anything.... we always had our needs taken care of and sometimes even a few of our wants as well.... overall, tis the stuff of life.... sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down, but if you're living in the western modern world, you're pretty much always OK......
yet there are people around me who are mean or jealous or go on about how "unfair" life is.... twice this last weekend, I have been reminded of the ungratefulness in people..... an ungratefulness which I cannot fathom possessing.... an utter disregard for all they've got because they're missing some-THING.....
one of my friends lamented to me about her difficulties in getting pregnant..... she is having trouble conceiving and she's become secretive about what exactly ails her.... she hasn't told anyone what the doctors have said, she's gone to acupuncture and an herbalist and she's now going to some sort of "ovary reawakening" yoga classes geared towards fertility.... up to this point, she's pretty much been handed everything in her life - by family and friends - but alas, pregnancy is not something they can buy.... so she was angrily telling me about some awful person at her work, pregnant for the second time, unmarried, who doesn't even care that she's pregnant, like it's nothing to her.... she said, and I quote, "There is a perfect example of how unfair this world is - here I am, trying to have a baby and this girl can go out and just get pregnant by whomever."
what an ugly statement you've made - thought I....
how could she claim that this was some gross injustice? why exactly does she think she "deserves" a child more than this other girl? she herself has had all of life's necessities handed to her by her parents (from food, clothes, an education all the way to cars, a condo and now a house) she wanted to get married by hook or by crook - so she found a guy and a year later they were married..... she has both parents, a brother and a grandmother... all well and together....
but yes.... life is SEVERELY unfair..... because you can't have the one thing you want RIGHT now.... and she hasn't even been told that she can't have kids - she's just in the beginning stages... for now, this is still an obstacle and not a diagnosis..... sheesh.....
then Sunday, boyfriend's mom was going on about how difficult she had it also...... she had one kid and then 11 months later, another kid (bf)..... money was "tight".... her husband was always gone..... etc. etc.
then she busts out with, "Well, I did have a nanny for the first year, but you know, after that, woah... it was hard...." forgive me if I don't break out the violins..... huh?? her parents were here in the states sending her money.... she didn't work.... she had a nanny for a year..... she had a husband alive and at work... seriously.....
I don't get it.....
I'm pleased with the things I've got...... I never go into great detail about the various trials me or my mom or my family have been through.... I don't need to re-hash any of that..... I know what it was and I know how lucky I am that things were not worse (because "worse" was only a hairs length away)..... I'm happy and grateful for all the things I've got and even though I may pine for additional things, I keep it in check....
sure, it'd be great for someone to pay off my student loans.... it'd be great to have health as long as I live.... it'd be fantastic to have a new car and a great job, and 2.5 healthy smiling babies when and where exactly I want them,etc. but I have to do my best to get/maintain/accomplish these things.... the world owes me nothing..... I do not expect the best - I hope for the best and then I make do with whatever I get..... and I for one, can confidently say that I've had it easy......
it's this kind of thinking that has pulled me out of my funks..... and as I feel them coming on, so I will dig myself out.....
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