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I left the North, I travelled South.... Hello! lou, 30, living in North London with the luscious Rallen, but originally from the North West. A girl with a thorn in my side, my main loves are good food, fine wine, BDSM and cats. Semi-retired from Moz-solo, I check in occasionally to check the journals of good friends. Not drowning anymore...

Journal of Northern Bird (4363)

Tuesday November 26, 02

Shit

08:32 AM

Feeling really scared now. Was getting through my stupid actions on Friday night by promising myself it would all be ok and I'd never do it again. After reading the comments on my last post I'm now terrified. I know that wasn't the intention guys. I REALLY can't have a baby, I just can't. And all the diseases. God, my next period isn't even due for over 2 weeks yet so that's a long wait. I've been reading all sorts of websites, and whilst I could be pregnany, it's not likely. This was a tough lesson, but I assure you all I've learned it. I never imagined I'd ever do something that stupid but there we go. What's wrong with me at the moment? I really want to talk to someone about this, and do you know, there's no one. My friends are still wrapped up in their own stuff, and the one friend I know I could talk to is a gay man so he couldn't properly understand.

What is happening to me?

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  • First off, I'd just like to say to Anonymous that I'm really sorry for what happened to you. Absolutely nobody deserves to be put through what you are going through now. It's fucking sickening what our human race will do to eachother. I wish all the best for you.

    As for you Northern, I do agree with most of the comments made about unprotected sex. You're an adult. You don't need lectures. Sometimes we have to make mistakes in order to learn from them. Hopefully, nothing comes of this and you can move on and grow from this experience. Nobody should be judging you though. I hate when society comes down on a woman for having sex with with multiple partners but if it was a MAN, we wouldn't hear anything about it. As long as you're doing it SAFELY, I see nothing wrong with casual sex, as long as you're not looking to replace an emotional need of some sort. You have to be in the right frame of mind. Make sure you're not doing it for the wrong reasons. ie. self-esteem, etc. As long as both adults involved know where they stand -- then all the power to you. I've been in a monogomous relationship for 11 years now but if I was single, who knows what I'd be like?
    About the marriage & children issue - you know I feel the exact same way you do. Just because you don't want to get married, that doesn't mean you're somehow immoral. That's ridiculous! I'm not a religious person AT ALL. Why on earth would I feel the need to get married?? I've seen marriage kill one too many relationships to be sucked into that. As long as both people in the relationship are happy -- that's all that matters.

    Anyway -- NB, you know I support you completely. Everyone makes mistakes. Yes -- this is a HUGE one but you can't turn back time so there's no use in dwelling on the "what if's". I just hope everything is OK. You have my email addy. Email me ANYTIME.

    *hugs and kisses* to you sweetie.

    Luv ya lots.
    GenderNectar -- Tuesday November 26 2002, @09:23AM (#49889)
    (User #4408 Info)
    "How can you call this a home when you know it's a grave?"
  • It was a scary thing that happened. Of course you're going to be upset. If you want to talk about it, drop me a line at [email protected]. It was a frightening thing to go through, and of course you want and need to talk about it with someone.

    I wish you the best, and the offer to talk is always valid :)

    cheers-
    MozGirl18 -- Tuesday November 26 2002, @11:21AM (#49905)
    (User #2483 Info)
    "It is absurd to divide people into good or bad. People are either charming or tedious."-Oscar Wilde
  • Please do not be scared. Just think of it as a wake up call. It's frightening for all of us to realize how dangerous sex can be.
    As always if you need someone to talk to, e-mail me: [email protected]. I'll listen and help you the best that I can. So just calm down, I'm sure everything will be fine :)

                                              f4M
    flowers4Moz <[email protected]> -- Tuesday November 26 2002, @11:40AM (#49907)
    (User #5918 Info)
  • first Prozac now unsafe sex, i hope you get help
    Anonymous -- Tuesday November 26 2002, @01:57PM (#49913)
    • Re:your life by Anonymous (Score:0) Tuesday November 26 2002, @02:19PM
  • Hello you...

    If you're worried get yourself down the clinic. They'll prod you about a bit and you'll get embarrassed, but in the end at least you'll know.

    Learn from this. Don't be like me.

    Matt 'No stranger to the Clinic'.
    Wandsworth Matt -- Wednesday November 27 2002, @01:04AM (#49950)
    (User #6967 Info)
    XIIX
  • It also help creativity through repressed desire. Yes, be tragic, like me.
    Squirrelhead <[email protected]> -- Wednesday November 27 2002, @03:22AM (#49954)
    (User #2304 Info)
    "Great minds against themselves conspire and shun the cure they most desire"

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