Northern Bird (4363)

Northern Bird
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I left the North, I travelled South.... Hello! lou, 30, living in North London with the luscious Rallen, but originally from the North West. A girl with a thorn in my side, my main loves are good food, fine wine, BDSM and cats. Semi-retired from Moz-solo, I check in occasionally to check the journals of good friends. Not drowning anymore...
Thursday January 29, 04

Addendum

03:18 PM

Ok so that entry was really negative. What I was trying to say was that I really love him and because my feelings are so intense I don't want to lose him. I know he loves me but I'm scared it's a friendship love mixed with infatuation. He makes me happy most of the time, and that means everything. I'm just not very good at holding back that little bit of self-protection, but I know it's what I must do at this stage, and it's hard.

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  • It's clear you really love him. I just hate to see you eat yourself up with insecurity about someone who hasn't made the same commitment to you... I mean, an open relationship with someone you really want to be monogamous with is going to be hell in the long run, isn't it? It seems to me that you are making all the concessions. And that he gives you a little bit of intimacy and intensity and then runs off to email some woman on the net -- I mean, that pattern is likely to last, isn't it?

    I've read your journal carefully and I've wanted to make a comment so many times, and I'm sure this is unwelcome. But just to say, you're not being irrational! People can talk a good talk, but if you don't feel loved, that's the bottom line.
    Gabriella -- Thursday January 29 2004, @04:55PM (#85356)
    (User #7960 Info)
    And me and my heart, we knew...we just knew...forevermore...
    • Re:Lou... by Northern Bird (Score:1) Saturday January 31 2004, @04:01AM
      • Re:Lou... by Gabriella (Score:1) Saturday January 31 2004, @01:02PM
  • 1. you clearly love the man
    2. you clearly do not have to lose weight, I've seen pictures!
    davidtwigg -- Friday January 30 2004, @06:34AM (#85384)
    (User #8102 Info)
    • Re:pnawn dda by Northern Bird (Score:1) Saturday January 31 2004, @04:04AM
  • Aw Lou, dear Lou! I truly think the feelings and fears you go through are very natural. There always is a point where you start to doubt if it's going to last, isn't there? It's a shame that you don't feel suffisiant for him though, you shouldn't have to feel this way. Maybe give him the signal that you are everything he ever wanted and he'll believe it, and maybe even yourself, after a while? I believe in "self-fulfilling prophecies" so I try not to use any bad predictions. And if he says he loves you and noone but you, just believe him.
    Oh I don't want to give "advice" here, I hope it doesn't sound that way. I just know how you feel and want you to know that I care...
    xxx
    sweetnesss <[email protected]> -- Friday January 30 2004, @07:35AM (#85391)
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    Life can only be understood in reverse.


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