New form of "coolness"?

[Mozzy1]

xxxxxx

[sarahT]

I think your workmates are winding you up, either that or you made the whole thing up.

[Kewpie]

i, once, rubbed tmyem!'s nice beard and i'll admit that it was very nice, but it wasn't a gay thing (for me ).

i'm not into blokes. my wife is buying me a motorbike for our anniversary.

Hope you'll get a nice motorbike which you can travel to work.

[bogdana]

I think we should have a 'Touch TMYEM beard party' in sort of honour of this thread.

who is coming? (in a manner of speaking).

me me me! wait am i too early?

[HIM]

I think we should have a 'Touch TMYEM beard party' in sort of honour of this thread.

who is coming? (in a manner of speaking).

i'm up for that.

[vicarinatutugal]

Hey,

I work w/ a lot of various ages of people. These people too, obviously, all come from very different backgrounds. Over lunch yesterday, about 10 of us were sitting around talking about upcoming plans for the weekend. To be honest w/ you all, during these conversations, I just sit, eat & chime in only to say 1 little point. This is b/c I'm very shy. Anyway, a topic was brought up concerning this party someone was giving over the weekend. I was invited, the invites were by e-mails, copied to several people. The party was just you know, a regular party. However, I listened more intently to the conversation b/c of some of the people that were going to the party, I normally didn't hang-out w/ people they had their own group of friends just as I have mine. That's when the bottle was dropped in the bottom of the barrel so to speak. Someone brought up the topic of swinging & crushes on people that person had who was of their same sex. This party was to literally "break the ice" in forms of expressing their gayness/lesbianism towards their fellow colleagues. I was kind of shocked, I'm not going to lie. This I found out too, was a popular trend. I never even heard though, of this. I am heterosexual & comfortable though, w/ people of other sexualities. I mean, their lifestyle is their choice as I hope they respect me as I respect them. However, I was kind of uncomfortable just imagining in my mind about the scenario. The image reminded me of the party scene in the movie, "Eyes Wide Shut" where the guests had disguises & different types of sexual practices were performed. That scared me....Am I wrong? It was even deemed w/ a comment that these types of parties are all of the latest trends. It reminds me of that old night club in NYC, Plato's Retreat. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plato%27s_Retreat

I guess what I'm writing to ask is that, are parties like this such common practices? I mean, I never even heard of this until now. I am very unsure if I'm going to go to the party. I know, I know...I should live life but, if I don't feel comfortable, why put myself into a situation that would make me that way?

I do respect the people though, I am not mean nor ignorant to them, or being discriminatory. I am just basically asking, is this such a commonality & if it is now "cool" to be bi? Is that the new "coolness"? And if you're not, (like myself) does that mean that you're "uncool"? I don't care what people think of me, to be quite perfectly honest. I just never even heard of these parties yet, everyone was stating how it's been around forever....where the he** have I been, probably roaming Saturn (in my mind) as I usually do.....

What do you think?

well I think swinging parties have been going on for many years.. was that not the big thing in the 60s?
I would think that it is not common, I have never had anyone say to me that they have been invited to anything like that.
Also cool or not it would not be something I would be going along to and nor would I worry about it at all, I would worry about them. In fact I prob would not worry I would just think what a lot of old shite, and go for a coffee or the cinema with one of my own friends.
I think at work you get on quite well with your co workers so I would not fret about "fitting" in with the cool lot. Just be friendly and stuff and do your own thing away from work.

[esheh195]

I do respect the people though, I am not mean nor ignorant to them, or being discriminatory. I am just basically asking, is this such a commonality & if it is now "cool" to be bi? Is that the new "coolness"? And if you're not, (like myself) does that mean that you're "uncool"? I don't care what people think of me, to be quite perfectly honest. I just never even heard of these parties yet, everyone was stating how it's been around forever....where the he** have I been, probably roaming Saturn (in my mind) as I usually do.....

What do you think?

What rock have you been living under? Of course, you're only cool is you're bi. Duh

[vicarinatutugal]

Seriously, do you think that clean-living, being moral, good, pure, innocent, virtuous, is around anymore?

yes I do, I think these people you speak of are extremes, I do not know any of these types (that I am aware of, or that make it a big public thing) Although my bf works with someone who has a bit of a sexual web site...

[cornelius blaze]

me me me! wait am i too early?

no, you can touch his beard anytime

i'm up for that.

yes, you would be, you slut!

well I think swinging parties have been going on for many years.. was that not the big thing in the 60s?

How about a 'touch TMYEM's beard Party' would you be game?

What rock have you been living under? Of course, you're only cool is you're bi. Duh

hey, does that inclued beards?

I don't know about you people but, don't you feel that these people can get contagious diseases? Or hurt the people they're "supposed" to love b/c they cheated? ?

the beard of TMYEM is quite clean, ask HIM (or him!).

What happened to committment? (I heard that on a commercial last night too).?

It needs stroking from more then one person, it's hard to explain...its just, its 'needs' to be met!

Seriously, do you think that clean-living, being moral, good, pure, innocent, virtuous, is around anymore?

you can be all that and have a beard

[vicarinatutugal]

One Oprah show did a true & total report w/ factual statistics indicating how this whole "scene" is very hush-hush, even in influential neighborhoods.

I just can't believe some of the actual people I am a colleague w/ actually participate in this but, hey, it's whatever floats their boat. Some cruises have more options & points, I guess....

I just feel that if you're virginal, pure, innocent,....people make fun of you for being some loser which is totally wrong. I mean, no-one has a right to judge anyone b/c no-one was created perfect. Then, if you're teased, how does one get out of that. I mean, I'm still getting teased about the plastic husband gift by the men here but, I just laugh or ignore them...

I am aware that stuff goes on behind closed doors, fair enough. I just think though that mostly people are pretty normal as far as these things go, I think you are doing fine. Try not to worry and just stay true to yourself. If you try to fit in to some "scene" or other you will just make yourself really unhappy.
I know that some of the conversations the girls have in my bf's office make his hair stand on end... a lot of it will be just chat I should think.

[esheh195]

I don't know about you people but, don't you feel that these people can get contagious diseases? Or hurt the people they're "supposed" to love b/c they cheated?

What happened to committment? (I heard that on a commercial last night too).

Seriously, do you think that clean-living, being moral, good, pure, innocent, virtuous, is around anymore?

You're treating the minority of sick freaks as if they're the majority. I don't know anyone personally who has ever been involved in this type of thing.
As for diseases, if someone's too stupid to use protection...well, have fun playing russian roulette...they deserve what they get. I'm sure in a scene like that, they'd be practicing safe sex more than people with "normal' sex lives simply due to the high-risk lifestyle that the members are probably living. I'd be more worried about catching a disease from the good old fashioned, "oh, this person's nice...they surely don't have anything and we've been together for awhile so who needs protection?" scenario.

And as for good old fashioned morality. There are degrees for everything. Most of the people I know have faults, as everyone does, but are for the most part well-meaning people more often than not. The way you describe society makes it seem like you have a negative outlook on life. But I know that surely can't be the case.

[vicarinatutugal]

How about a 'touch TMYEM's beard Party' would you be game?

are there blindfolds involved? I like a bit of fuzz on a man, its sexy. Men are meant to be hairy. (not chimp hairy, just manly)

[Hellie]

I don't know about you people but, don't you feel that these people can get contagious diseases? Or hurt the people they're "supposed" to love b/c they cheated?

What happened to committment? (I heard that on a commercial last night too).

Seriously, do you think that clean-living, being moral, good, pure, innocent, virtuous, is around anymore?

Ofcourse this thing goes on...but thankfully not in my circles!!

I`d stear well clear if i were you.Bloody hell what sorts of people are your work colleagues?It is pretty morally corrupt.not the gay thing but spreading it about.

[Arsenal]

Seriously, do you think that clean-living, being moral, good, pure, innocent, virtuous, is around anymore?

It is, but it's very rare. Things like that aren't uncommon. Just look at college and university parties these days. They are basically one giant orgy. I was actually reading a article the other day about how college/uni parties are more boozier and have way, way more sex going on now than at any point prior.

4/10 women have a STD (I don't know about men, but I imagine it's about the same, as they sleep with the women) and that figure will only rise as the promiscuous behaviour escalates. Divorce is rampant and more and more people are shunning marriage.

Are these things around? Sure, but they are at the bottom of a giant pile of shit. Good luck digging them out.

[Not Right in the Head]

Just look at college and university parties these days. They are basically one giant orgy. I was actually reading a article the other day about how college/uni parties are more boozier and have way, way more sex going on now than at any point prior.

Hmmm. I've been meaning to go back and get another degree sometime...

[Buzzetta]

Hmmm. I've been meaning to go back and get another degree sometime...

If you are like me... and part of me thinks you are....

Well...

ever see "Old School"?

[Amy]

What do you think?

It seems rare for the majority of one workplace to not only all be secretly gay, but also all fancy each other. If you're straight I don't really know why it bothers you. Sex parties aren't most people's scene I don't think.

[Not Right in the Head]

ever see "Old School"?

Oh, yes.

[Amy]

I don't know about you people but, don't you feel that these people can get contagious diseases? Or hurt the people they're "supposed" to love b/c they cheated?

What happened to committment? (I heard that on a commercial last night too).

Seriously, do you think that clean-living, being moral, good, pure, innocent, virtuous, is around anymore?

Of course it is, otherwise *everyone* would be participating in bisexual orgies and no-one would have time to get married or hold down real jobs

[Not Right in the Head]

Of course it is, otherwise *everyone* would be participating in bisexual orgies and no-one would have time to get married or hold down real jobs

You say that as if it's a bad thing.