What songs can i use.....?

[BackstageInaDress]

I wanna make a cd of songs for someone I've fallen for to let him know how i feel, anyone got suggestions on what i can use? they dont nesassarily need 2 b smiths/moz bit i think thats a good start! cheers guys!

[Republican Party Reptile]

> I wanna make a cd of songs for someone I've fallen for to let him know how
> i feel, anyone got suggestions on what i can use? they dont nesassarily
> need 2 b smiths/moz bit i think thats a good start! cheers guys!

You should use songs that convey how you feel.

[BackstageInaDress]

> You should use songs that convey how you feel.

Thats right, but its hard to remember some on the spot, my brain goes dead. Plus there might be perfect ones that I had forgoten of, its nice to get suggestions from people, esp people who know moz/smiths so well.

[Republican Party Reptile]

> Thats right, but its hard to remember some on the spot, my brain goes
> dead. Plus there might be perfect ones that I had forgoten of, its nice to
> get suggestions from people, esp people who know moz/smiths so well.

No one actually likes when someone makes a mix for them, and early on in a relationship it can backfire.

People like making mixes for others because making them is fun (more fun than listening to them), and because we're egotistical and think we have the best taste and must push it on others. Everyone believes they have superior taste in music. But just as everyone believes they are intelligent even though most people are stupid, most people also don't have music taste that's so fascinating to others. And actually, most people will never listen to a CD you make for them. And rightfully so - it's obnoxious to force music on people. People are receptive to music when they decide for themselves they wanna listen to it.

And mixes can backfire. I've gotten mixes where there's one track by an artist I find repulsive and it can really be a turn off. And I've given mixes to people and when they tell me they tried to listen but it was, for example, "too weird," that can also be a total turn off when you were expecting them to get on their knees and worship your taste.

My advice is to pick one song that conveys how you feel, and play this one song for the person, presented like: "I keep playing this song because it makes me think of you." This way you are stroking their ego more than trying to show off your own record collection, and you're not making them put effort into digesting 20 songs. Follow this up by showing great interest in THEIR music taste. If things get off to a good start, you can get them into your music over time and without overt force.

[BackstageInaDress]

> No one actually likes when someone makes a mix for them, and early on in a
> relationship it can backfire.

> People like making mixes for others because making them is fun (more fun
> than listening to them), and because we're egotistical and think we have
> the best taste and must push it on others. Everyone believes they have
> superior taste in music. But just as everyone believes they are
> intelligent even though most people are stupid, most people also don't
> have music taste that's so fascinating to others. And actually, most
> people will never listen to a CD you make for them. And rightfully so -
> it's obnoxious to force music on people. People are receptive to music
> when they decide for themselves they wanna listen to it.

> And mixes can backfire. I've gotten mixes where there's one track by an
> artist I find repulsive and it can really be a turn off. And I've given
> mixes to people and when they tell me they tried to listen but it was, for
> example, "too weird," that can also be a total turn off when you
> were expecting them to get on their knees and worship your taste.

> My advice is to pick one song that conveys how you feel, and play this one
> song for the person, presented like: "I keep playing this song
> because it makes me think of you." This way you are stroking their
> ego more than trying to show off your own record collection, and you're
> not making them put effort into digesting 20 songs. Follow this up by
> showing great interest in THEIR music taste. If things get off to a good
> start, you can get them into your music over time and without overt force.

ok well what u said makes total sense, but he is a very good friend with a very similar taste to me and he's coming to see morrissey on the 18th too so i thought it might help him get to know the songs. the whole idea of saying "this makes me think of u" was the plan anyway, so what do u think?
Anyone else?

[How soon is forever, Fatty?]

> ok well what u said makes total sense, but he is a very good friend with a
> very similar taste to me and he's coming to see morrissey on the 18th too
> so i thought it might help him get to know the songs. the whole idea of
> saying "this makes me think of u" was the plan anyway, so what
> do u think?
> Anyone else?

Just look up on the message board what songs he did on his last few gigs, and then throw in a couple of suggestive ones, obviously Ask is perfect, and Tomorrow, perhaps...

[BackstageInaDress]

> Just look up on the message board what songs he did on his last few gigs,
> and then throw in a couple of suggestive ones, obviously Ask is perfect,
> and Tomorrow, perhaps...

ask...? you think? ok! whys that?!

[How soon is forever, Fatty?]

> ask...? you think? ok! whys that?!

"...If there´s something you´d like to try;
Ask me, I won´t say no, how could I?
If it´s not love, then it´s the bomb that will bring us together..."

[BackstageInaDress]

> "...If there´s something you´d like to try;
> Ask me, I won´t say no, how could I?
> If it´s not love, then it´s the bomb that will bring us together..."

not sure if there is a bomb bringing me and him together ya see...