Even for a one night stand he should at least have seen The Smiths live, cried when they split up, followed Morrissey's solo career religiously and have valuated opinions on Malajusted.

I'd rather date someone who liked the Eminem vs. The Smiths song -- even if that was as far as his familiarity with the group went -- than someone who had largely unobjectionable musical taste but who also happened to hate The Smiths and Morrissey. And ya'll know how I hate Eminem. Eminem, when will you die?

But seeing as I'm celibate, my (admittedly irrational) point is moot.

If I weren't going to be celibate anymore though, I'd definitely be seeking out another hardcore fan, or at least someone with a strong, if less obsessive, appreciation for the man and the music.

I wouldn't honestly care. Who is that shallow? If I was lucky enough to get a date, I wouldn't care whether they liked Morrissey or not.
However, if they were a Disturbed fan I might have to rethink our relationship.

when i started going out with my good lady she was not really keen on Mr Morrissey, didn't HATE but not keen, however I introduced her to the way of the Morrissey and now she loves him! Take it as a challange!

I could easily go out with someone who didn't know about or didn't care about the songs of SPM.
However, if someone actively disliked them, then the two of us are not going to get along. I don't think that's being shallow at all. If something is a very important part of your life, as song-based music is to me, then having a partner who actively dislikes it just isn't going to work. From a practical point of view, you would want to play the songs at home, in the car etc and the other person would be in pain! Equally, I couldn't go out with someone who loved music that I couldn't stand, e.g. Radiohead, Robbie William, Paul Weller.
John.

After a decade long, 10 years chasing her tail, Whirling Waltzer, relationship, Z married the guy her parents went out and chose for her(self). Z was not really into music and told me so one day. I thought this was similar to not liking chocolate and it alarmed me. I've always thought: never trust anyone who does not love chocolate, love some type of music, and/or has a unibrow. Very superstitious, indeed. Z also said that, "all you need is one album by Fleetwood Mac," and that struck me as just slightly over the top. I remember purchasing Madonna, Michael Jackson, and Guns & Roses albums for Z, because of the little music she liked, these artists were among her favorites. While she did not hate Moz, Z did not particularly care for him, and Z told me that she was jealous that I loved someone as much as I cherished her. While Z was quite willing to go to a Sting concert, she never went to any Moz shows with me, where other friends merrily did. Z really had no edge at all, nothing remotely alternative about her, but I still loved her for reasons too numerous to go into here, for we had many common passions, aside from music, and it felt like we had been created from the same clay. Though I voted today for "to each his own" I have also "been there and done that." And will time ever pass for us? Yes, and as it does, I realize how much I love Morrissey, and how his influence on my life has meant more to me than any living thing on Earth. Now, I make no apolgies for this, because I'm so glad to have moved away from those younger years, an old hand understands. The woman I care for now, T, knows as much about Moz as I do (or it's very close), and on our first date, when T asked me what music I liked, and I sheepishly said, "Morrissey," T said The Smiths were her favorite band of all time. We spent the entire evening talking about music, and it was a major turn on, for I had never been out with a woman who shared my musical tastes. Though in its September Spawned stages, this new relationship is wonderful as we are constantly talking about music, borrowing CD's from one another, and growing in our love for the music we have in common. The only question is: when we're in her scholarly room, who will influence whom. I believe that likes attract, I always have. While the girl of my dreams (my first love), Z, and I had more in common, personality wise, this new person, T, connects with me in a way that is all together different, an artistic way, which I also find compelling, especially as I get older and realize, with the touchy march of time, that aside from family & friends, music is the most important love in my life.

So goodbye Z, please stay with your own kind, and I'll stay with mine.

within a minute or so of meeting my girlfriend she asked me if i liked the Smiths and Morrissey....

Don't you just love it when that happens.

She even introduced me to this site.

(On a less happy note i tried going out with a Paul Weller fan once. I really don't like his stuff. And very soon after we started seeing each other i realized that she was as thick as two short planks. Moral: never date modettes.)

I like intelligent women. And that's exactly what Morrissey fans usually are.

I am friends with a couple, one of whom is a rather ardent Morrissey fan, while the other partner absolutely despises him.

Rather than causing conflict, this particular issue is a constant source of amusement between the two of them, as they jibe one another for their differing tastes in music.

Although I sometimes wonder if it does become frustrating for either of them, being forced to endure music they dislike (when the other chooses to play their music aloud in their presence). I guess relationships require a certain amount of compromise.

I, however, could not compromise on this matter. Music is too important to me. I don't think I could go a day without listening to my music, and I know I could not endure listening to say, Celine Dion, for anyone, no matter how much I loved them! (besides, I could not love someone I didn't respect!).

A friend of mine, concerned about the obsessive nature of my adoration for the Smiths and Morrissey, recently asked me "If you were forced to face the rest of your life either never listening to another song by the Smiths or Morrissey, or never falling in love, which would you choose?". Much to his dismay, disgust and disappointment, I knew immediately what my choice would be. While "loves" may come and go, these songs are the only ones who ever stood by me, and who will always be there. I could not make it through life without them. I guess you could say that I love them, and this love is more real and important to me than any I've ever found in an actual relationship.

So I could never be with someone who despised Morrisey or the Smiths, because they would be forced to hear them on a regular basis, and if forced to choose, I'm afraid the music would always take precedence.

I'm currently rather fervently pursuing a girl whose favourite performer (I started typing 'artist' but stopped myself) is Avril Lavigne. She's smart as a whip, ballsy, forthright, funny as hell, but her taste in music is utterly unspeakable, which has led me to a conclusion - some people just don't love music they way we do, and, despite what I might have believed a few years ago, that doesn't actually make them bad people. For them, music is something to mouth along to in the car, something to have on in the background over drinks, something to dance to at the club. This gives me some measure of hope. If this girl doesn't really care about music, it should be no skin off her nose if the music playing in the background happens to be the Mozzer instead of Good Charlotte (although the guy from GC is apparently a huge Smiths fan, so there's a possibility of a conversion if I play my cards right)! I've also learned, over the course of a few messy one-night situations/abortive relationships that it's not necessarily a good thing to confuse common record collections with sexual chemistry. So, in short, yes, I would enter a relationship with someone who was not as pathetically obsessed with Morrissey as I am, but if it was someone who openly despised him, well, let's just say I'd have to give it serious consideration.

on whether or not they will accept it as a preference that we disagree on or continually have something to say about it. if you're dating someone, you shouldn't make them feel bad for the things that they like.

she is learning to like it :)

There is hope

I have been a huge Moz/ Smiths fan since I was 12 yrs old and have listened to the Smiths and Morrissey's music constantly since then but I've always tried not to play their stuff when boyfriends are around because I think I tend to associate places/ music/ films with the people I'm with when I go there/ listen to them/ see them... and (apologies for the long winded answer) I hate the idea of splitting up with someone and thinking "oh no I can't play that record because it reminds me of my ex". How hideous would that be? To associate a wonderful Smiths or Morrissey song with a despised ex??? I couldn't risk it.

My Morrissey and Smiths obsession is a private passion & I don't really know if I want to share it with any boyfriends. (Anyway, all the guys I have ever gone out with have had rubbish taste in music....)
 
Having said that, I did take an ex to a Morrissey concert once (the one at Battersea Power station a few years ago) but we had a fight on the way home because he spoke to a girl and asked her if she had been to the concert and I flew into a jealous rage! Morrissey's display of self-flagellation on stage had obviously stirred something in me! You won't like me when I'm angry...

Lucky x

This is really hard!
To begin with, I'm not even capable of having a romantic relationship with anyone, and this is really Morrissey's fault. Yes, he has been like some sort of Personal Jesus to me, and helped med with a lot of things (through his lyrics, of course!), but he has totally spoiled my love life. I could NEVER find anyone to share my obsession for him with, not even a true Smiths fan.

And as for listening to Smiths/Morrissey with other people, it is totally out of the question.

Listening to Smiths and Morrissey isn't really healthy, you know? Maybe that's why we like it.

/A.K

I am still sort of dating a woman who absolutely DESPISES the Smiths/Morrissey... I say "sort of" dating because we are really close friends still- even after trying the whole relationship thing a couple years ago and moving on... we still hang out occasionally as we have a lot of common interests and friends but let me tell you she hates that music with a vengeance. Apparently her ex-boyfriend was obbsessed with the Smiths/Moz and it just NEVER grew on her... I adore her though so we simply avoid talking about the problem that is my passion for all things Smiths/Moz ;^)

I met this guy 2 months ago, and now he is my boyfriend. Anyway, he has a really good taste in music, needless to say he did not know of The Smiths or Morrissey (!!!). I gave him Meat is Murder, but I don't know if he likes it. He told me "I think The Smiths is something you have to get used to".
Erm no: you love them right away!
I'm still waiting for him to give me my Meat is Murder album back, and to tell me if he likes them or not...

I could never listen to Morrissey or The Smiths with someone. It's so personal. Too personal.

I honestly don't know WHO would 'despise' Morrissey or the Smiths in the first place. I could see 'not caring' for Morrissey or the Smiths- or simply 'not interested'- but I cannot imagine anyone actively despising Morrissey or the Smiths. The music is simply beautiful and compelling. Even the 'pop' tunes like 'Girlfriend in a Coma' and 'Sheila Take a Bow' are compelling. The Smiths were WAY ahead of their time in the '80s. I think they still are, and it is 2003. Visionary.

Ken

Once you are older, it doesn't matter if the person you are dating likes The Smiths or not. There are more important issues in a relationship.

Forget it!!!
Well unless it's very very short term ;)

I could have a relationship with someone who maybe had heard the Smiths and Moz and didn't like it but 'actively dislikes' as it says above tells me this means someone takes it that extra step. You know like "I hate that crap" or "How can you listen to that". If the girl had a to each their own, I am just glad he found something he enjoys type attitude well then that is another thing all together. Bring it on sister! Well you know what I mean by sister...ehem.
I am just glad that I found someone who likes and appreciates (and has seen live with me) Moz. Even if she's not a huge fan she recognizes talent. Phew, thank god everyone else I know is a huge fan of his :)

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Mozz is such a big part of who I am now. The guy Im dating didnt know the smiths when I met him, but I sure as hell made him the first few hours we were talking. We've been together for nine months and he likes Morrissey. If he hears a song he'll name it-otherwise I dont know if I couldve done it as easily as I did.

The worst thing is when you ask them if they like the Smiths beforehand, and they say yes. However, after further investigation I found out one ex girlfriend's Smiths and Moz knowledge spread little further than "How Soon is Now". that one didn't last.

Although obviously, each to his/her own. Its not something I'd get overly bothered about.

Most of the guys I've been out with have liked Morrissey/The Smiths as I have met them through a mutual appreciation. For example, guys at college wearing the t-shirts or the Smiths nights.

I have converted a few to The Smiths too. I met an ex of mine recently and he said he rarely listened to The Smiths but still had all the tapes I did for him 7 years ago!

I don't think I could stand anyone who actively disliked The Smiths and who was always barking on about how "miserable" Morrissey is, but I could cope with those who "are not keen" if they made up for it with other good taste in music.

The wife loves The Smiths but doesn't really like his solo stuff apart from Spring Heeled Jim,she also thought he looked old in the recent documentry.....but i love him.

Well,since I've never had a serious and especially long term relationship I can't say exactly how I'd behave.Anyway,my best friend(in a serious and long term friendship)almost loathes Morrissey and The Smiths,considering him a miserable moron and his music totally crappy"for Christmas jingles".We get along very well because we've decided not to talk anymore about it(after I attempted to kill him cutting his throat with the vynil of Meat IS Murder)yet sometimes I feel how lovely would be talking about Moz with someone who can understand and relate.We have to admit Moz fans are so devoted and faithful that most of our lives'actions are,somehow,connected with Morrissey.So I think I'd need someone who will know without explanations of mine why I love Morrissey so much.But...I can't afford to make this kind of selection and discrimination.I mean,it's just so hard to find someone(of human shape).I used to be very fussy, but now,after having seen the first wrinkles on my face..

I have converted several.

i mean if this chick had big tits and a great ass i might consider it. i mean let's face it, morrissey hasn't released anything good since 94'

You love her,
But she loves him,
And he loves somebody else,
You just cant win,
And so it goes,
Till the day you die,
This thing the call love,
Its gonna make you cry,
I've had the blues,
The red and the pinks,
One thing for sure,
(Love Stinks)

One of the greatest love songs of all times. :)

...is fine amongst friends. If it's true love, the person you're seeing will be too busy going down on you to have much to say about anything. That's what will eventually kill any relationship. Talking. Talking about anything is the absolute death knell. Tell me I'm wrong. Think back to your relationships that have ended. What did it? Some shit you said or they said to you, right? Well, then, don't say anything. Don't let anyone say anything to you. Keep Morrissey and The Smiths playing if you want to and keep your lover busy eating you out so that they can't express any dissension if they're not into your musical choice. If you base your relationship on constant reciprocal oral sex, the relationship will be so strong that no differences in musical taste will ever come between you.

Finding someone to love is too hard for me.So,i've lost my faith, Morrissey or not Morrissey.
I have nothing else to declare,only my jeans.

Strikes me there are a lot of single people on this website who'd love to meet someone with very similar taste in music. So time to provide details (age, location, gorgeousness) and arrange those blind dates!

Neil
Age: 32
Location: London
Level of gorgeousness: moderate to middling

Relationships are funny things. Everyone wants to have stuff in common with their partner. However, if I was dating a guy that didn't like Morrissey, I think that I could deal with it- as long as he didn't mind it when I played him. Musical tastes should not be a deal breaker. But imagine if it were true........

I can just see the converstaion now....

"You don't like Morrissey?"
"No."
"How about The Smiths?"
"No."
"I simply can't love you. Look for the postcard on your windshield."

Not likeing is one thing, hateing is another. I could never date a person that hated Moz and would always be reminding me that whenever i would play Morrissey. And also should be someone that at least would try to understand why i am so into morrissey...it would be like at least showing interest on me, curiosity, kindness! :)

Seeing how Moz fans never get laid and all.

    But, objectively speaking, I can see how people do not like Moz. There are people in this world who have never been lonely and I really can't see what those people would get out of Moz.

and there was me thinking that it said 'how would you feel about a long-term relationship with morrissey?'

well i voted.. 'forget it'

'the chance would be a fine thing!

Upon how big her tits are.

Now, how does that line from High Fidelity go..."maybe it isn't what you like, but what you're like, that matters after all"...

Christ, ten years ago I would have spat in my own eye. But that was then.

I discovered Moz and The Smiths right about the same time I met my current boyfriend who went on to introduce me to their whole discographies! and we've been together ever since (9 yrs) and have seen him in concert together 3 times. Yes I'd have to say I've been truly blessed....

What a silly question. That's like asking if you would date someone who practices a religion that's different than yours. As much as I love Mozz, many interesting and attractive people I know can't stand the man. Let's just leave it at that.

I love songs. They are one of my favourite things in the whole wide world. If my partner didn't share my love for at least most of my favourite songs (37 of which have been sung by Steven Patrick) then we wouldn't be able to share one of main passions in life.
John

I am a huge Smiths fan. I love their work. The stuff I love most is apparently not generally reguarded as their best stuff - How Soon Is Now? IS a classic and I don't care what anyone else says. Maladjusted was a fantastic Morrissey album which I could listen to until my ears drop off. Morrissey and the Smiths got my through my hideous dark teenage years when I was stuck in a bedsit on my own hating my life, hating my job and dating no one. The music spoke to me and said "hey bloke, it ain't so bad and you're not alone". Then i got married at 22 to a Smith hating, David Essex fan. I could never play the Smiths with her in the house. I ended up going to David Essex concerts. I became some one I wasn't supposed to be. I am divorced now and back with the record collection of my teenage years. I am happy again and know that I will never (re)marry because i can't risk going through that again.