Online sites....serious advice

[Mozzy1]

Seriously, and I'm not fooling....has anyone here tried an online site to meet someone?

[laughing_anne]

Seriously, and I'm not fooling....has anyone here tried an online site to meet someone?

How has it worked? Recently, a coworker gave me the name of a site, http://www.plentyoffish.com claiming that, it has worked for him & I know personally that, he's gone out on various dates.

I know this is a PATHETIC topic but, I'm being serious. I've done this whole route before but, I'm thinking of signing up. Ok, I won't lie. I created a profile there last night & included a recent photograph too, so, there's no "surprises" if you know what I mean? The almost going to be- 35- year- old syndrome w/out a family is really, really, really sinking in. lol

I'm basically looking for advice & tips on what I can say that'll attract someone sensible. My alias there is spooky84 so, you can search & see what I put. Seriously, I'm putting this out here looking for REAL help & if you can think of any way to improve myself or the profile, please, let me know. Well, friend to friend here, thanks in advance for anything you can help me with. Secondly, wish me luck....I'll need it.

What have your experiences been like?
How long should I give this? Months, I mean?
If I do meet someone, how long should it be for dating?
How long did it take you to receive responses?
Did you put yourself out there, meaning YOU approach & ask someone out? If you were rejected after you've done so, what did you do to bring yourself back up?

I have no personal experience on online-dating but my ex-flatmate met her husband through an internet dating site. She's happy and the guy is actually very nice. Just be careful and don't reveal too much information about yourself. And if you go on a date, always make sure a friend knows where you're going and how long you intend to stay. :)

[HIM]

Seriously, and I'm not fooling....has anyone here tried an online site to meet someone?

How has it worked? Recently, a coworker gave me the name of a site, http://www.plentyoffish.com claiming that, it has worked for him & I know personally that, he's gone out on various dates.

I know this is a PATHETIC topic but, I'm being serious. I've done this whole route before but, I'm thinking of signing up. Ok, I won't lie. I created a profile there last night & included a recent photograph too, so, there's no "surprises" if you know what I mean? The almost going to be- 35- year- old syndrome w/out a family is really, really, really sinking in. lol

I'm basically looking for advice & tips on what I can say that'll attract someone sensible. My alias there is spooky84 so, you can search & see what I put. Seriously, I'm putting this out here looking for REAL help & if you can think of any way to improve myself or the profile, please, let me know. Well, friend to friend here, thanks in advance for anything you can help me with. Secondly, wish me luck....I'll need it.

What have your experiences been like?
How long should I give this? Months, I mean?
If I do meet someone, how long should it be for dating?
How long did it take you to receive responses?
Did you put yourself out there, meaning YOU approach & ask someone out? If you were rejected after you've done so, what did you do to bring yourself back up?


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[bogdana]

most of the people i've met from the internet are Not Right in the Head.
HAHHAHAAAHAA

[TLOTFamousIP]

I just use Morrissey-Solo

[laughing_anne]

I just use Morrissey-Solo

Any luck so far?

[withmyheadonthebar]

Seriously, and I'm not fooling....has anyone here tried an online site to meet someone?

How has it worked? Recently, a coworker gave me the name of a site, http://www.plentyoffish.com claiming that, it has worked for him & I know personally that, he's gone out on various dates.

I know this is a PATHETIC topic but, I'm being serious. I've done this whole route before but, I'm thinking of signing up. Ok, I won't lie. I created a profile there last night & included a recent photograph too, so, there's no "surprises" if you know what I mean? The almost going to be- 35- year- old syndrome w/out a family is really, really, really sinking in. lol

I'm basically looking for advice & tips on what I can say that'll attract someone sensible. My alias there is spooky84 so, you can search & see what I put. Seriously, I'm putting this out here looking for REAL help & if you can think of any way to improve myself or the profile, please, let me know. Well, friend to friend here, thanks in advance for anything you can help me with. Secondly, wish me luck....I'll need it.

What have your experiences been like?
How long should I give this? Months, I mean?
If I do meet someone, how long should it be for dating?
How long did it take you to receive responses?
Did you put yourself out there, meaning YOU approach & ask someone out? If you were rejected after you've done so, what did you do to bring yourself back up?

Weren't you already on that site before Xmas?

[TLOTFamousIP]

Any luck so far?

I'll let you know once rank-dsgn signs back in ;)

[EPbabe]

Weren't you already on that site before Xmas?

Exactly what I was going to say....:rolleyes: Mozzy1, stop fooling us! :)

Here's your post of December 30, in case you suffer from a temporary memory loss....
http://forums.morrissey-solo.com/showthread.php?t=81976&highlight=lonely+hearts&page=2

[EPbabe]

I'll let you know once rank-dsgn signs back in ;)

That is too sweet, fingers crossed for you, youngsters! :)
(Have you pm-d her?)

[Hellie]

Don't you have trouble with vampires at parties:confused:

If they are called Vlad or Drac it might be a bad idea and if they have a profile picture, that is something like these:

http://i201.photobucket.com/albums/aa43/chismo16/dracula.jpg

http://i141.photobucket.com/albums/r60/himmelh/dracula.jpg

http://i128.photobucket.com/albums/p196/ermalz/dracula.gif



You have got a wicked wit.Very funny.:)


I've heard of people meeting their soul mate online.But personally knowing my lack of luck I'd end up with a right pervert or an axe murderer.I wouldn't dabble myself.It does smack a little of desperation.

[TLOTFamousIP]

That is too sweet, fingers crossed for you, youngsters! :)
(Have you pm-d her?)

:D Nope I think I've pestered enough female Moz-Soloers this week after poor Skinner's ordeal on Monday

[EPbabe]

You have got a wicked wit.Very funny.:)


I've heard of people meeting their soul mate online.But personally knowing my lack of luck I'd end up with a right pervert or an axe murderer.I wouldn't dabble myself.It does smack a little of desperation.

So, before solo went down, I was saying that I used to date a guy I had met on the internet. He asked me out a couple of times and altough it didn't last very long, it was a nice experience. :) My cousin also met her husband online and they're now expecting their first baby. :sweet: It is true though that the first guy from the internet she dated was a complete asshole... :mad:

[EPbabe]

:D Nope I think I've pestered enough female Moz-Soloers this week after poor Skinner's ordeal on Monday

Lol, I'm sure she understood! :D

[EPbabe]

emmmm...did he sleep all day in a coffin?

Well, almost. He was a compulsive liar.:angry:

[PregnantForTheLastTime]

most of the people i've met from the internet are Not Right in the Head.
HAHHAHAAAHAA


HAHAHAHAAHHAAAA! Yep. Me too. And you know that's not gonna work.

[TLOTFamousIP]

[QUOTE=cornelius blaze;756324]are you vampire? I was hopefully meeting up with her on saturday......is she one of your 'brides' now:tears:[QUOTE]

I don't know about that, although there's probably laws against being that close to someone for two hours without being married...

[vicarinatutugal]

I know 2 people (women) who tried a dating service it did not work for them, I "know" someone on the internet who met her husband in a aol chat room, they are still married with the usual trials in life.
I would honestly say, what about taking a big break from online romances and stuff, just try to relax and live your life. You never know what is round the corner for you.
You also know you get hassles on these kinds of threads cause they seem to go round in circles, I do not like the meanness of it really but I think people can get a bit fed up repeating themselves.
Good luck though, really.

[PregnantForTheLastTime]

Where is Kewpie when we need her? This thread needs to be appended to its identical twin from a couple of weeks ago.

However, because I am good soul: Mozzy, a business associate of mine (hehehe, that makes it sound like I'm in the Mob, lol) met a wonderful guy on either Match.com or eharmony.com, I forget which it was. They've been married for about five years now and are very happy.

[TLOTFamousIP]

In all seriousness, I don't see why it should be any different going out with someone you met online to someone you met down the pub/at a party etc. You've got just as much chance of them being a nutcase...

[laughing_anne]

In all seriousness, I don't see why it should be any different going out with someone you met online to someone you met down the pub/at a party etc. You've got just as much chance of them being a nutcase...

Good point but I would much rather go out with someone I have already met in person. That way I could form at least some kind of opinion of the guy. If he freaked me out I wouldn't go. Body language, expressions etc are an important part of communication and you don't get that online.

[Bassist-In-A-Tutu]

Yes - I have done this, and had a good time too!

Just follow a few simple rules. Get to know them online. I always spent at least a week, or longer chatting to them so that I know we get on well.
Always pick a good place where you are comfortable if you decide to meet up. A local pub or resturant or something wherre there are lots of people arround.
Don't ever go home with anyone on a first date!
Be honest and be yourself. How can youexpect anything to work out if you don't do this?!

I have had 3 dates recently - the first one with a psycho lady who I quickly wrote back to the next day and said I didn't thisk it would work!
The seccond woth a lovely girl who was intelligent, beautiful and funny as she seemed to be online. We will see each other again!
Last night I met a Moz fan, who just happens to have tickets to the gig tonight, as I do! Blimey - we will be meeting up again tonight to.
And of course, I have a date on Saturday, which is why I had to sell mt ticket for the Saturday night gig. But we have been friends online for many weeks, and she seems very special, so it was worth it! At least I hope it will be!!!

Any way - go for it but be sensible, there realy are some lovely people out there to be met! But do take it slowly and make sure you get to know people well online before going out on any dates!

Good luck, let us know how you get on!

;)

[TLOTFamousIP]

Good point but I would much rather go out with someone I have already met in person. That way I could form at least some kind of opinion of the guy. If he freaked me out I woudln't go. Body language, expressions etc are an important part of communication and you don't get that online.

I'm usually too hammered when I meet a girl to remember anything about her face, let alone expressions & body language, before the next time we meet up ;) But then I'm going to Hell.

[laughing_anne]

I'm usually too hammered when I meet a girl to remember anything about her face, let alone expressions & body language, before the next time we meet up ;) But then I'm going to Hell.

At least you're honest ;)

[TLOTFamousIP]

At least you're honest ;)

It probably explains why I was single for a year and a half! (well, one of the many reasons :D)

[EPbabe]

It probably explains why I was single for a year and a half! (well, one of the many reasons :D)

Maybe you weren't single. You just didn't remember the girl you were dating... ;)

[Not Right in the Head]

Seriously, and I'm not fooling....has anyone here tried an online site to meet someone?

As I've said before, if you're going to use an online dating service, one called "Plenty Offish" ought to be warning enough.



http://www.pic4ever.com/images/dash2.gif

Truer words have never been spoken.


most of the people i've met from the internet are Not Right in the Head.
HAHHAHAAAHAA


HAHAHAHAAHHAAAA! Yep. Me too. And you know that's not gonna work.

:tears: :angry: :D


However, because I am good soul: Mozzy, a business associate of mine (hehehe, that makes it sound like I'm in the Mob, lol) met a wonderful guy on either Match.com or eharmony.com, I forget which it was. They've been married for about five years now and are very happy.

!


I'm usually too hammered when I meet a girl to remember anything about her face, let alone expressions & body language, before the next time we meet up ;) But then I'm going to Hell.

Such honesty is refreshing in his day and age. :D

[bogdana]

In all seriousness, I don't see why it should be any different going out with someone you met online to someone you met down the pub/at a party etc. You've got just as much chance of them being a nutcase...

thats absolutely true.

you know, as tough as it can occasionally be to be married, its 10000 times worth it not to have to risk my life in the dating pool anymore!

[TLOTFamousIP]

Maybe you weren't single. You just didn't remember the girl you were dating... ;)

:D It wasn't you was it? Thought I recognised those eyes from somewhere! :p

[TLOTFamousIP]

thats absolutely true.

you know, as tough as it can occasionally be to be married, its 10000 times worth it not to have to risk my life in the dating pool anymore!

I think the next generation will find it weird when people date people they've NOT spoken to online first!

[EPbabe]

:D It wasn't you was it? Thought I recognised those eyes from somewhere! :p


Don't worry, it wasn't me! I'm too old for you... :o

[bogdana]

do you show them your pussy on the first date?

geeeez HIM!:tears:

oh never mind, i get it! HAHAHAH!

I think the next generation will find it weird when people date people they've NOT spoken to online first!

you're probably right. i think its kind of a good idea. for the right amount of money you can even get background checks on them before you even shake hands! :) plus no awkward silence. sweet!

this should go into the confessions thread but I"ll say it here: I dated a guy i met on the phone once. we both worked for disney and he called to make a reservation and we had a very long, non-money making for the company talk and we ended up being 'together' even though he had to go back to WI after his time was up in the disney college program. it only lasted 8 months and he hates me for breaking up w/him because i met someone else (who ended up being a douche). but he was sending mixed messages. i said i could go up to WI this one october and he was like, eh no you dont need to do that. so i was like, well fine! I'll date someone in Orlando! :p

[TLOTFamousIP]

Don't worry, it wasn't me! I'm too old for you... :o

I prefer older women ;)

[TLOTFamousIP]

Wow, in the hour and a half since the site went down I'm now 100% single again! I knew her name and everything :(

[bogdana]

Wow, in the hour and a half since the site went down I'm now 100% single again! I knew her name and everything :(

since i have no idea who you are talking about i'll just say, "There there" :tears:*pats head* girls are dumb. sorry.:D

[TLOTFamousIP]

The serious reason I posted this was asking for some tips.

Yes, I did have a profile on there but, I lost my password & when I tried the several to log-in, all t hat happened was, it locked me out. So, I e-mailed the administrator. He deleted the account but then, I re-did my account just last night. This time, I put my password away safely. I also re-organized my thoughts on paper first and had my friend from work, Deb, help me write out exactly what I wanted to say.

I'm giving it a couple of months. I'm not asking anyone out though, I just don't approach.

If you have had success on this or any other websites, let me know. If you could think I could improve w/ polite constructive criticism, let me know too.

I'm being thankful & genuine to you in the process. This is not whiney or worried either.

Thanks.

I think I might join you on that site!

[TLOTFamousIP]

since i have no idea who you are talking about i'll just say, "There there" :tears:*pats head* girls are dumb. sorry.:D

Thanks. I'd go as far as to say they're evil, but I'm not bitter or anything :rolleyes:

[laughing_anne]

Thanks. I'd go as far as to say they're evil, but I'm not bitter or anything :rolleyes:

and we lie too :p;):D

[TLOTFamousIP]

and we lie too :p;):D

I may feel slightly sad...
but I won't cry

[bogdana]

and we lie too :p;):D

yes and i think we are devils incarnate or something like that. i dont know, i didn't take very good notes at the last "how to break all men's spirits" convention! :(

[TLOTFamousIP]

It won't work, because there's nothing left to break ;)

[TLOTFamousIP]

Best of luck Mozzy1

[Paulc]

This time, I put my password away safely. I also re-organized my thoughts on paper first and had my friend from work, Deb, help me write out exactly what I wanted to say.


I am relieved you put your password away safely and i am very relieved that you had your friend from work, Deb, help you write out exactly what you wanted to say.:rolleyes:

But if i may offer some advice - why not forget about the whole dating thing for a while and relax into being single and comfortable on your own. Then someone might come along all of their own accord....This whole internet dating saga is a minefield. People can get lucky but people can also get hurt. Especially if they are desperate. Be careful.

[vicarinatutugal]

Has anyone seen my profile there? What do you think of my photo? Should I change it? Seriously.

What about my ad? Is it "too desparate" & "too intense"?

I mean, at least I didn't lie & everything I put was the God's honest truth, including my photo so that there's "no surprises" if you know what I mean?

well maybe pop a bit of make up on, or if you have some on a little bit more, I thought in the pic you looked a bit flushed, maybe you are a reddish toned person as a rule tho, I think it is best to be honest though as you have been. I do not wear much make up in fact I really only would put some on if I was going out for an evening something like that so if you feel weird about it then don't bother.

[gperkins151]

The serious reason I posted this was asking for some tips.

Yes, I did have a profile on there but, I lost my password & when I tried the several to log-in, all t hat happened was, it locked me out. So, I e-mailed the administrator. He deleted the account but then, I re-did my account just last night. This time, I put my password away safely. I also re-organized my thoughts on paper first and had my friend from work, Deb, help me write out exactly what I wanted to say.

I'm giving it a couple of months. I'm not asking anyone out though, I just don't approach.

If you have had success on this or any other websites, let me know. If you could think I could improve w/ polite constructive criticism, let me know too.

I'm being thankful & genuine to you in the process. This is not whiney or worried either.

Thanks.

I met my current girlfriend on Match.com. We've been driving each other crazy for over 4 years now. Seriously, we are in love and sharing a small apartment together.

I think these dating sites are excellent for weeding out the flakes, the uninterested and the boring. It sure beats screaming in some underaged girls ear while drinking watered down beer and listening to god-awful techno crap at a club not worth paying 20 cents to get into, let alone $20 - only to find out she's a lesbian who lives in another state with her bodybuilding girlfriend.

[EPbabe]

I prefer older women ;)

You're just saying it to console me, but I don't really mind... ;)


Wow, in the hour and a half since the site went down I'm now 100% single again! I knew her name and everything :(

Awwwwwww! What happened? :eek:

[EPbabe]

Has anyone seen my profile there? What do you think of my photo? Should I change it? Seriously.

What about my ad? Is it "too desparate" & "too intense"?

I mean, at least I didn't lie & everything I put was the God's honest truth, including my photo so that there's "no surprises" if you know what I mean?

For god's sake, we were going through the very same questions less than a month ago! :eek:

[gperkins151]

Has anyone seen my profile there? What do you think of my photo? Should I change it? Seriously.

What about my ad? Is it "too desparate" & "too intense"?

I mean, at least I didn't lie & everything I put was the God's honest truth, including my photo so that there's "no surprises" if you know what I mean?

I suggest you present yourself as honestly as posssible. That way you'll attract people to you, not some ficticious version of you. :)

[Hellie]

I prefer older women ;)


how old??I am very well preserved for my 38 years and have been told "no waaaaay you look about 28!!" but then no one is going to say you look decrepid.):o

I could do with a toy boy.:D

[vicarinatutugal]

For god's sake, we were going through the very same questions less than a month ago! :eek:

I know, and this is not just to you EP the thing is, people do not have to come into these threads and they def do not need to comment. That is just my feeling on it. :o

[Hellie]

I can't take the rubbish out without my slap.

[EPbabe]

how old??I am very well preserved for my 38 years and have been told "no waaaaay you look about 28!!" but then no one is going to say you look decrepid.):o

I could do with a toy boy.:D


Wow, in the hour and a half since the site went down I'm now 100% single again! I knew her name and everything :(

I guess you're not anymore... ;):D

[EPbabe]

Well, I guess Vicarinatutugal was right, I wasn't being very constructive. No, wait, I was but that was on another thread, another time.... :rolleyes: Anyway, Lizzie, if you're ready here it is:

1. Your username would be a total put-off for me. Spooky? Who'd want to date a woman named like that?

2. You have very nice blond hair which is good. Just don't pull it back, and you could do with a more trendy haircut, I guess.

3. Some makeup has never done any harm to anyone. Your eyes look lovely too (though it looks like one is blue and the other one is black....), so you could use some eyeliner and mascara to make them more visible.

4. Full-bodied girls tend to have great boobs. So get yourself some good bras and show those guys some cleavage.

5. "who's totally in love with me" Erm, you just don't say that. It either happens or it never will, but as the genious says "you can't hurry love..."

6. "firmly divorce, never married or widowed" Now that is spooky. Why widowed? You don't have to say it like that, if a widowed person is ready for a new relationship and likes you, he will contact you anyway.

7. "his own transportation" Erm, why on earth does this matter????? Are you looking for a free ride or a guy?

8. "I wish everyone on this service good luck & may you find your true love!!" This is actually very kind, really.

Good luck!

[mell]

How on earth have I missed this thread today?! (Oh wait, it's because Solo's been down.) I love Mozzy1's posts!

Mozzy1, I'm not sure if you genuinely care what any of us have to say to you. People have tried to give you constructive criticism in the past and you seem to ignore it. Then you come back here and start a new thread about the same thing again.

Online dating can work for you, you just have to stick it out and be selective. Don't fall for someone just because they are there, have some standards and self-confidence. Don't be someone's doormat, etc. My best friend, who certainly has no trouble meeting men, met her boyfriend on Match.com. She was tired of meeting guys at bars, so match.com helped her find someone who was interested in a serious relationship and not just a fling. Good luck!

p.s. I agree with EPbabe, show off your assets if you've got 'em!

[Cassius]

I just hope you know that you are more than arm candy for a man. You are a human being, and if you want to be loved, you have to love yourself first.

[PregnantForTheLastTime]

Mozzy, you didn't revamp anything, it's the same as it was a few weeks ago, if I recall correctly.

People on here have tried to help you and take you seriously, and you keep coming back here with the same attention-seeking posts. It's disengenuous.

I would really love to hear you met someone and a friendship is building. (That's what you're looking for, not falling head over heels in love, right? Start small and grow.)

Good luck...

[TLOTFamousIP]

You're just saying it to console me, but I don't really mind... ;)



Awwwwwww! What happened? :eek:

I'm deadly serious! I've never gone out with anyone younger than me :p

I couldn't tell you what went wrong really, one minute she's keen, the next she's not. Women! :(

[TLOTFamousIP]

how old??I am very well preserved for my 38 years and have been told "no waaaaay you look about 28!!" but then no one is going to say you look decrepid.):o

I could do with a toy boy.:D

I went out with a 38 year old when I was 22, so I'd have no problem with that at all. Quite the opposite :D;)

[stephk817]

I did the online dating thing a few years ago and it's not for me. One thing I do have to say is to trust your gut instincts. Nine times out of ten they are right.

[Dave]

I liked the one where all the people at work had gay crushes on each other. What are the odds of this happening? And then the (what I believe to be) vampire party was also great.

They need to bring back MTV Undressed (http://youtube.com/results?search_query=mtv+undressed&search=Search) and hire Mozzy 1 to write for it.

[Moonbeam]

The swinging party with Count Duckula was my fave....

[EPbabe]

I'm deadly serious! I've never gone out with anyone younger than me :p



This statement applies to me too! Now that we've been talking about it, I've had to think of all the guys I ever dated and "I have just discovered" :guitar:, that the youngest of them was of my age! The oldest was 23 years olders....:o


I couldn't tell you what went wrong really, one minute she's keen, the next she's not. Women! :(

Awww, poor thing. :( Well, the problem with online crushes is that because of the lack of personal contact you lose a lot of information like body language and metacommunication and that gives rise to loads and loads of misunderstandings....:rolleyes:


I went out with a 38 year old when I was 22, so I'd have no problem with that at all. Quite the opposite :D


Hohohohohohoho!:D

[Imhotep]

I joined an online dating thing last week as it happens. Always promised myself I would never do it again, but there you go - there was a certain grim inevitability about it.

One great advantage they have over "real life" though is at least the people on there are actually looking for other people, when in real life most people are not.

I don't like most of what I've seen on there to be honest. Most of the women are all "Wow! I'm SO crazy!" and wearing novelty hats and stuff. Smacks a bit of sad desperation to me. As for the men - well, some of them are just plain SCARY. I seriously wouldn't want to meet them in a dark alley!

There was one stunner I was conversing with and she seemed quite keen, but it's gone a bit quiet over the last few days so I think she's wised up. I know where TLOTFamousIP's coming from there!

I can see how a dating agency CAN work for people, but I think you've got to be pretty thick-skinned - which is something I'm not, really. I constantly have my witty, carefully worded introduction emails binned or not even read. You've got to be prepared for 90% (or more) of these things to just not go anywhere.

I did meet up with someone from a dating agency about 8 years ago and she was well nice - really ace. For once, all my planets were in alignment and I was charming, witty and chatty. Didn't get me a second date though! :o

...And anyway, what's wrong with people who don't have their own transport??? That bugs the hell out of me. I don't drive but I travel around quite nicely without a bleeding car. :mad:

[Dave]

Novelty hats? :eek: Thanks for posting that, it was fun to read.

I don't think having a car is that important either. I think it's that there is a certain type of guy that doesn't have a car and needs a ride every where. He needs money for cigarettes and to pay off his court fines and things too, and probably guitar strings and wine or a little bit of weed. I've seen women support these kinds of men and complain about it but not get rid of them. It's a problem. So I think that some women associate "no car" with "will cost me a lot of money to support his bohemian lifestyle".

[TLOTFamousIP]

Awww, poor thing. :( Well, the problem with online crushes is that because of the lack of personal contact you lose a lot of information like body language and metacommunication and that gives rise to loads and loads of misunderstandings....:rolleyes:


Just to clarify, mine wasn't an online thing (I'd only date someone I met online if they were from Moz-Solo ;)) it was all very real!

[girlunafraid]

Elizabeth, I am not trying to criticize, but there are a couple of conflicts:

Do you want children?Undecided/Open

am ready to settle down, marry & start a family because I'm ..

Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.

What happened to Laz and Loz? the two kids that you were supposed to be adopting this year?

Why not just get a dog? Faithful and loving and won't pester you for sex!

[EPbabe]

Just to clarify, mine wasn't an online thing (I'd only date someone I met online if they were from Moz-Solo ;)) it was all very real!

Oh sorry, that was a misunderstanding then... :o
(Solo Girls are HAWT! :horny: ;))

[DAVID is my HERO]

(Solo Girls are HAWT! :horny: ;))


Nah just you ;)

[Moonbeam]

I hope she meets some sex pest who wants to do everything on Elizabeth's "do's and don't list" ('no requesting I put eyeliner on you when naked' was number 1 I think).

[TLOTFamousIP]

(Solo Girls are HAWT! :horny: ;))

I'd noticed ;)

[Depeche609]

Seriously, and I'm not fooling....has anyone here tried an online site to meet someone?

How has it worked? Recently, a coworker gave me the name of a site, http://www.plentyoffish.com claiming that, it has worked for him & I know personally that, he's gone out on various dates.

I know this is a PATHETIC topic but, I'm being serious. I've done this whole route before but, I'm thinking of signing up. Ok, I won't lie. I created a profile there last night & included a recent photograph too, so, there's no "surprises" if you know what I mean? The almost going to be- 35- year- old syndrome w/out a family is really, really, really sinking in. lol

I'm basically looking for advice & tips on what I can say that'll attract someone sensible. My alias there is spooky84 so, you can search & see what I put. Seriously, I'm putting this out here looking for REAL help & if you can think of any way to improve myself or the profile, please, let me know. Well, friend to friend here, thanks in advance for anything you can help me with. Secondly, wish me luck....I'll need it.

What have your experiences been like?
How long should I give this? Months, I mean?
If I do meet someone, how long should it be for dating?
How long did it take you to receive responses?
Did you put yourself out there, meaning YOU approach & ask someone out? If you were rejected after you've done so, what did you do to bring yourself back up?


I don't think it's a pathetic topic at all. Let me know how it goes for you.
I'm very interested because I've thought about signing up for a dating site myself. I never EVER thought I would, but it's hard for me to meet guys these days because I work from my home office and go to school at night.
Plus, when I'm out with friends, it's hard to meet guys when my friends are mostly guys. (would cock block be the right term:D)

Here's why I haven't yet....
...when I check out all the dating sites I know about, I see all the same guys in each site from my area. It's kinda scary.

There's a site I just found called greensingles.com you might want to check out. It seems there are more intelligent people on there.
I didn't join because there are only a few Jersey guys on there.

I think that's my problem..I'm in New Jersey...and most Jersey guys are not pleasant...except for any Jersey guys on here of course:o
You guys rock!!

Someone really should put together a morrissey-solo dating site..haha
I would totally join!!!

[Paulc]

Someone really should put together a morrissey-solo dating site..haha


go on then :D

[Moonbeam]

I don't think it's a pathetic topic at all.

It is only pathetic cus it's the zillionth time she has posted it...

Ok the second but it is the zillionth post of this kind by her. Mozzy1 brings humour to this site if nothing else....

[Moonbeam]

Yeah yeah yeah we heard it all not a month ago when your 'friend' dared you to put a profile on there. In case you have amnesia have a read...

http://forums.morrissey-solo.com/showthread.php?p=734504#post734504


Tell us more about swinging parties, gay co workers and vampire admirers :p

[Paulc]

It's interesting some of the profiles that did rate me over a 7 considering that photo of myself is SH** & it makes me look like I have bad teeth. lol


maybe it wouldnt be a bad idea to put up a photo that you actually like on a dating site profile?? Just a thought.

[sarahT]

http://www.plentyoffish.com/member6386391.htm

I revamped it all, but the photo. Thanks, EPbabe too, for your suggestions.

We'll see now what happens. I'm going to give it a couple of months.

If you look under rate my image, it has fans. I have NO clue what I'm supposed to do w/ those fans I mean, write them? Or, wait for them to IM me?


Lizzy I agree with epbabe,you should change your name from Spooky to something a bit more suitable. You should also revamp your list of interests. Your top two interests are listed as ''cooking'' and ''fireplaces''
I'd hide them further down the list or dispense with them altogether.
These are some of your other interests I personally would keep quiet about:

Dark shadows
Ravens
Paranormal activity
Gothic poetry
Candles
Gettysburg
and
Genesis


Don't put that you would be willing to re-locate as this sounds a bit mad, and for the love of God would you tell us what the Shore Scene is and why you are so set against it. For all you know there may be a fireplace loving Genesis fan in the shore scene who'd be perfect for you. I hope you find somebody I really do.

[HIM]

''fireplaces''

i wondered about that.

[bogdana]

i wondered about that.

heh me too. why are her interests so gothy and she doesn't look the part? are you wicca or something mozzy1?
hey where are you guys getting all this was there a link? im all curious about this site now.

[bogdana]

i'm not sure. perhaps, she fantasises about this (http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/bradford/7204543.stm) type of thing. i suspect, though, that the fantasy reaches a different climax.

tee hee connie showed me that yesterday!:D

they should rename this smiley "emo" :tears:

[meat_is_murder19]

My mate meet his wife on a dating site they have been married for 8 years and still going strong.give it ago

[Amy]

Mozzy1, will you stop at nothing to get a man? This is laughable.

[bogdana]

"sweet, sensitive, generous, stable, secure, sensual, loyal and most of all, respectful man that will be patient and will be the love of my life forever"

that made me panic and im not even in the dating game, nor am I male!

[Amy]

I have just taken a look at your revamped profile. Your main request seems to be;

I'm looking for a sweet, sensitive, generous, stable, secure, sensual, loyal and most of all, respectful man that will be patient and will be the love of my life forever


Now, do you not think, from a stranger's point of view, that the above statement would scare men off? You can't just instruct people to be 'the love of my life forever' :rolleyes:

[Amy]

"sweet, sensitive, generous, stable, secure, sensual, loyal and most of all, respectful man that will be patient and will be the love of my life forever"

that made me panic and im not even in the dating game, nor am I male!

:eek:... ^^^^ great minds..!!

[Alcoholic Afternoons]

"sweet, sensitive, generous, stable, secure, sensual, loyal and most of all, respectful man that will be patient and will be the love of my life forever"

that made me panic and im not even in the dating game, nor am I male!

I'm reminded of Bill Murray in Groundhog Day: "This is a man we're talking about, right?"

[TLOTFamousIP]

Having looked at the profile, I'm really hoping it is a wind-up/joke!

[bogdana]

I'm reminded of Bill Murray in Groundhog Day: "This is a man we're talking about, right?"

by her criteria no wonder she's single.

My husband only 100% meets 5 of those hahahahaha
I think I only meet 4!!!

[gperkins151]

I have just taken a look at your revamped profile. Your main request seems to be;

I'm looking for a sweet, sensitive, generous, stable, secure, sensual, loyal and most of all, respectful man that will be patient and will be the love of my life forever


Now, do you not think, from a stranger's point of view, that the above statement would scare men off? You can't just instruct people to be 'the love of my life forever' :rolleyes:

Yeah, I'd chop off the ending:

I'm looking for a sweet, sensitive, generous, stable, secure, sensual, loyal and most of all, respectful man. (that will be patient and will be the love of my life forever)

[bogdana]

Yeah, I'd chop off the ending:

I'm looking for a sweet, sensitive, generous, stable, secure, sensual, loyal and most of all, respectful man. (that will be patient and will be the love of my life forever)

you forgot she should add this: "Trying for at least 5 out of those 9"

[gperkins151]

you forgot she should add this: "Trying for at least 5 out of those 9"

Actually, she could probably choose three adjectives that sum up the rest:


I'm looking for a sweet, sensitive, (pick one)
generous,
stable, secure, (pick one)
sensual,
loyal and most of all, respectful man. (if he's repectful, he's loyal)


How about a sensitive, stable, sensual man? That still sounds like a jackpot, but at least much more realistic.

[Moonbeam]

She doesn't ask for much does she? :rolleyes:

Considering you are not half them things yourself (especially stable) you shouldn't be expecting a 'fan' to be them things.

[bogdana]

Actually, she could probably choose three adjectives that sum up the rest:


I'm looking for a sweet, sensitive, (pick one)
generous,
stable, secure, (pick one)
sensual,
loyal and most of all, respectful man. (if he's repectful, he's loyal)


How about a sensitive, stable, sensual man? That still sounds like a jackpot, but at least much more realistic.


i tried to find a clip of the "sensi" episode on Scrubs, but you tube failed me. it would go well here.

[PregnantForTheLastTime]

How about confident? That sums up a lot, doesn't it?

[gperkins151]

i tried to find a clip of the "sensi" episode on Scrubs, but you tube failed me. it would go well here.

Yeah, Scrubs is excellent. I like Kelso the best, no wait - the Janitor. Blonde Doctor - that's classic! :D

[gperkins151]

She doesn't ask for much does she? :rolleyes:

Considering you are not half them things yourself (especially stable) you shouldn't be expecting a 'fan' to be them things.

Wise words.

It is unfair to ask for what we cannot provide.

[Moonbeam]

hahahahaha

[Hellie]

Actually, she could probably choose three adjectives that sum up the rest:


I'm looking for a sweet, sensitive, (pick one)
generous,
stable, secure, (pick one)
sensual,
loyal and most of all, respectful man. (if he's repectful, he's loyal)


How about a sensitive, stable, sensual man? That still sounds like a jackpot, but at least much more realistic.


This man does not exist. Trust me.

[Cassius]

This man does not exist. Trust me.

Or he's gay!

[bogdana]

Or he's gay!

even then he probably cant meet all 9 requirements! i've never met a 'sweet' gay man in my life lolz

[Imhotep]

Anyone into Genesis is OK in my book (as long as we're talking up to about 1980), so ignore that one who told you to keep quiet about it!

Anyway, I'm still really bugged out about the "own transport" thing. I don't have my own place either, but for the sake of this argument, let's say I have. My last girlfriend lived about 100-odd miles away but I did OK using rail. In fact, the money I save on running a car is getting me places I probably wouldn't be able to go to otherwise, and if I meet someone they're probably going to get free foreign holidays off me, so I don't think I'm being particularly cheap. I don't think I'm a "loser" just because I choose not to drive.

As a member of such an agency, I would take one look at your profile and say you were being shallow. I know you aren't, but that's the one over-riding impression I would have. I would also, personally, ditch all this "b/c w/" stuff. You say you're after an intelligent man, but I'm only reasonably intelligent and someone who can't be arsed to type out words sends me into a killing frenzy. You're more likely to get youths impressed with that stuff. I'd say, create the right impression, actually write "because" and "with". You're only doing it once and it won't take too long!

Anyway, this thread may have been useful to me in the long run as I've updated my profile to include the fact that I'm currently carless should the issue prove to be a clincher in finding my life partner. I've also realised with all this talk of Genesis that I'd forgotten to put Moz on my favourite music list :eek: .

[Cassius]

even then he probably cant meet all 9 requirements! i've never met a 'sweet' gay man in my life lolz

There's no woman to meet those requirements either (except for me, of course ;)). That person just doesn't exist.

[Moonbeam]

Anyone into Genesis is OK in my book (as long as we're talking up to about 1980), so ignore that one who told you to keep quiet about it!

Anyway, I'm still really bugged out about the "own transport" thing. I don't have my own place either, but for the sake of this argument, let's say I have. My last girlfriend lived about 100-odd miles away but I did OK using rail. In fact, the money I save on running a car is getting me places I probably wouldn't be able to go to otherwise, and if I meet someone they're probably going to get free foreign holidays off me, so I don't think I'm being particularly cheap. I don't think I'm a "loser" just because I choose not to drive.

As a member of such an agency, I would take one look at your profile and say you were being shallow. I know you aren't, but that's the one over-riding impression I would have. I would also, personally, ditch all this "b/c w/" stuff. You say you're after an intelligent man, but I'm only reasonably intelligent and someone who can't be arsed to type out words sends me into a killing frenzy. You're more likely to get youths impressed with that stuff. I'd say, create the right impression, actually write "because" and "with". You're only doing it once and it won't take too long!

Anyway, this thread may have been useful to me in the long run as I've updated my profile to include the fact that I'm currently carless should the issue prove to be a clincher in finding my life partner. I've also realised with all this talk of Genesis that I'd forgotten to put Moz on my favourite music list :eek: .


Haha imagine meeting someone who you really liked and vice versa and them saying "You don't have a car? Sorry I can't date you loser".
It just wouldn't happen...unless you are Elizabeth

[ruthless_compassion]

I would also, personally, ditch all this "b/c w/" stuff. You say you're after an intelligent man, but I'm only reasonably intelligent and someone who can't be arsed to type out words sends me into a killing frenzy.

i lol'd

[Cassius]

Haha imagine meeting someone who you really liked and vice versa and them saying "You don't have a car? Sorry I can't date you loser".
It just wouldn't happen...unless you are Elizabeth

I do not know you or why you do not like Elizabeth, but I would just like for you to know that you come across as quite a bully. It is not attractive. I have read your posts on Mozwa and you don't sound like a bad person there, so why come across as someone unpleasant on this site? You're much more likely to make friends here if every post you make isn't trashing Elizabeth. If she bothers you that much, maybe you should just ignore her.

[Moonbeam]

Sorry? Did I ask to make friends with you?

I'm entitled to my opinion as are you.....:rolleyes:

[Cassius]

Sorry? Did I ask to make friends with you?

I'm entitled to my opinion as are you.....:rolleyes:

And there's that charming snideness again.

No, you did not ask to make friends with me, and if I recall, I didn't ask to make friends with you either...

It is a shame you cannot act like an adult, you would be taken much more seriously then. Enjoy your stay.

[girlunafraid]

Sorry? Did I ask to make friends with you?

I'm entitled to my opinion as are you.....:rolleyes:

Just to let you know that I chuckle at your posts. Ignore that bully cassius.

[Moonbeam]

Hehe

the 'bullying poor eliza" and "if you don't like her ignore her" posts were always going to make an appearance. I'm not going to justify my comments to her....they are what they are (if you don't like them ignore them :p). I actually quite like her these days (fickle I know), she humours me and gives me light relief when I have my head stuck in essays.

[Hellie]

Or he's gay!

Yes more than likely.What was that film with Jennifer Anniston ?She fell in love with a gay bloke who bordered on perfection.That must be a tough thing.I guess you could try and convert him but it depends how gay he is.He could be Morrissey kind of gay.:p

[imogen11]

Novelty hats? :eek: Thanks for posting that, it was fun to read.

I don't think having a car is that important either. I think it's that there is a certain type of guy that doesn't have a car and needs a ride every where. He needs money for cigarettes and to pay off his court fines and things too, and probably guitar strings and wine or a little bit of weed. I've seen women support these kinds of men and complain about it but not get rid of them. It's a problem. So I think that some women associate "no car" with "will cost me a lot of money to support his bohemian lifestyle".

ha! Such an accurate observation!

I have no car, by the way, but I am female. I don't drive currently because I live in the city and catch trams everywhere. If I had a car, it would just sit in the garage.

[Amy]

As Pete Shelley said at a gig in France, "there's no pleasing some people." I've revamped the damn thing AGAIN. lol

I think you would be better off to scrap the entire thing, go buy yourself some new heels or lipstick or whatever, and go look for a man in the real world rather than waiting with baited breath behind a computer screen for months on end.

[nugz]

oh man. all 7 pages of this thread were total entertainment. thx everyone! :D

[EPbabe]

oh man. all 7 pages of this thread were total entertainment. thx everyone! :D

Did you read everything carefully and learn your lesson? ;)

[Not Right in the Head]

oh man. all 7 pages of this thread were total entertainment. thx everyone! :D

If you thought this was good, wait til you see next month's rehash of the exact same topic.

[vicarinatutugal]

oh man. all 7 pages of this thread were total entertainment. thx everyone! :D


Did you read everything carefully and learn your lesson? ;)


If you thought this was good, wait til you see next month's rehash of the exact same topic.

tut tut what are you all like.

[EPbabe]

tut tut what are you all like.

Sorry, I did give her some advice too. :clap:

[vicarinatutugal]

Sorry, I did give her some advice too. :clap:

oh i know and I also get the irritation as well. Ah well.

[nugz]

Did you read everything carefully and learn your lesson? ;)

i learned my lesson from internet dating a long time ago. well not from internet dating sites necessarily, but ive had some interesting myspace encounters... :o:p


If you thought this was good, wait til you see next month's rehash of the exact same topic.

can't wait, i'll see you there! ;)


tut tut what are you all like.

oh shushy, you know you got a few laughs out of it....:cool::p

[vicarinatutugal]

oh shushy, you know you got a few laughs out of it....:cool::p

http://i167.photobucket.com/albums/u132/beedah2/Smiley/disimulado.gif

[mar2d2]

you guys are so mean


Nah just you ;)
pff

[Imhotep]

Is it just a coincidence that the ad banners on this Forum have suddenly begun to have a dating service on them (parship.co.uk)? :p

I might have a look as I'm giving up with mine - a lot of the ladies on there who claim to be in their 30's are clearly in their late 50's!

[Moonbeam]

A good friend of mine has decided to join one of these online dating thingymejigs. She has no idea about the internet and the weirdos it attracts though....she isn't naive though so she should be okay. As her previous boyfriends have always turned out to be oddballs I dread to think what she will meet. I'm gonna give her Eliza's profile to show her how it's done :D Oops there I go again :rolleyes:

[mauve21]

I just find it a bit hard to believe people. I mean really, you could
talk to a man online who may actually be married with kids when
he's told you he's single. Or he could be a total psychopath ready
to drug you and do away with you.
Awww, just call me paranoid....:eek:

[Imhotep]

Well, I haven't killed anybody for absolutely AGES :( .

[M-in-Oz]

I just find it a bit hard to believe people. I mean really, you could
talk to a man online who may actually be married with kids when
he's told you he's single. Or he could be a total psychopath ready
to drug you and do away with you.
Awww, just call me paranoid....:eek:

But that could also be true in a 'real life' encounter.

[esheh195]

"sweet, sensitive, generous, stable, secure, sensual, loyal and most of all, respectful man that will be patient and will be the love of my life forever"

This is the reaction that any guy who is NOT likely to cut you up into symmetrical pieces and leave you in a hefty bag in a backalley somewhere would have to this kind of statement:
http://i187.photobucket.com/albums/x84/esheh195/gifs%20and%20comments/familyguy6.gif


If you thought this was good, wait til you see next month's rehash of the exact same topic.
The clock is ticking......17 days til V-Day! :D
The posts should be getting reaaaal good soon.
http://i123.photobucket.com/albums/o292/freefreeuploads/myhotcomments8/Valentine.jpg