Just need a little advice, dont know if this is appropriate

[GirlAfraid23]

Not sure if I should be posting here about this but need some advice anyway...Basically me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex the other morning I am on the pill, but took it a few hours late that day...now I am worried as I am getting constant hunger pangs, even when i've just eaten and cravings for odd foods plus I have been feeling nauseus and sick alot of the day. I also got odd stomach cramp type things the evening after we did it...like period pains but not...please help me, i'm driving myself mad!

I can't even talk to my boyfriend about it because he will freak out! He already said it would ruin his life if I ever became pregnant :(

[CrystalGeezer]

Pee on a stick.

[MindlessRuffian]

How long ago did you have the unprotected sex? If it was very recent, can those symptoms occur that quickly?

[bored]

I don't think a few hours is much to worry about. I think the symptoms are in your mind or coincidental.

[CrystalGeezer]

Also, the pill effects your cycle, even though you take it daily I believe it disrupts the egg dropping on a long term scale, it wouldn;t matter if you took your pill later than normal.

[snowfallsoon]

I wouldn't worry about a few hours at all....and if you had sex the other morning, you
wouldn't be feeling any symptoms now.

[mcrickson]

I'm not sure I can really help you with an answer to your question as well as some, but this:



I can't even talk to my boyfriend about it because he will freak out! He already said it would ruin his life if I ever became pregnant :(

I can understand him potentially freaking out, but he shouldn't say to you that it would ruin his life, even if he feels that way. If god forbid something like that would happen, you should at least feel that you two would be able to work out a plan for a child.

My best wishes to you, I hope these symptoms are just psychological.

[CharlieFairhead]

He already said it would ruin his life if I ever became pregnant :(

'Ever'?
Before you're both ready is perhaps a better way to have put it, more long winded but hey ho.
If you're really worried it too late for the MAP? Under 25's get it free from certain chemists. (differs area to area mind)

[GirlAfraid23]

Thanks everyone for your speedy responses...maybe I am just being paranoid...if I miss my next period...then of course I will start to panic! Take a test or whatever. Fingers crossed I'm not though :(

[Claudia2006]

You're probably fine, but if it's been less than 72 hours since the unprotected sex you could ask your doctor for Plan B, assuming it's available where you live.

Especially if you're relatively new to being on the pill and you don't have years of experience knowing how well you do on it, always always always use a condom too because women do get pg on the pill sometimes. (This is in addition to the other reasons to use one). Good luck. Ah the joy of the pregnancy scare. :squiffy:

[speedfreaks ball]

CONGRATULATIONS!
let us know if its a girl or boy.

[Moonbeam]

CONGRATULATIONS!
let us know if its a girl or boy.

Hahahahaa

[Brel]

I'd start a 'Names' thread, just in case :):)

[GirlAfraid23]

:( dont guys, im scared!!!!

I'm only 20

[Stella Erikson]

Well, a friend of mine took that pill and she felt sick, she said it was a good thing because that means the pill worked, nevertheless; if you still have doubts whether or not you're pregnant you should take a pregnancy test, I don't think it is that expensive and you can get it from any pharmacy.

Or simply follow Slike's advice and discretely go to ginecologist.

Good luck. :)

[Cassius]

Not sure if I should be posting here about this but need some advice anyway...Basically me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex the other morning I am on the pill, but took it a few hours late that day...now I am worried as I am getting constant hunger pangs, even when i've just eaten and cravings for odd foods plus I have been feeling nauseus and sick alot of the day. I also got odd stomach cramp type things the evening after we did it...like period pains but not...please help me, i'm driving myself mad!

I can't even talk to my boyfriend about it because he will freak out! He already said it would ruin his life if I ever became pregnant :(

I didn't even know you were supposed to take your birth control at the same time everday (you'd think my doctor would tell me something like that :rolleyes:) until just a few months ago. Before I knew this I'd been on birth control for five years (but always used a back-up).

Pregnancy scares are no fun. In order for you to not feel so paranoid in the future, maybe your boyfriend should start wearing condoms as well as a back-up.

What bothers me the most about your post is the fact that your boyfriend won't talk to you about this. If you he can't talk to you about something that upsets you, or discuss what would happen if you became pregnant, then perhaps you shouldn't be sleeping with him. Especially if all he can think of is how this is going to "ruin his life". What would he do if you actually did get pregnant?

[snowfallsoon]

Talk to your Dr. before you take the Plan B pill...there's such a small chance you could
be pregnant, I never, ever took my pill at the same time everyday, didn't even know
I was supposed to do that! Try to relax...you really would not be feeling any symptoms
of pregnancy after only a few days.

[Superhans]

I can't even talk to my boyfriend about it because he will freak out! He already said it would ruin his life if I ever became pregnant :(

That's because he doesn't love you and never will. :)

[GirlAfraid23]

That's because he doesn't love you and never will. :)

You're not nice to me superhans...what have I ever done to you?

Anyway he does love me, he is just too young to have a baby and scared, we both are!

[GirlAfraid23]

I didn't even know you were supposed to take your birth control at the same time everday (you'd think my doctor would tell me something like that :rolleyes:) until just a few months ago. Before I knew this I'd been on birth control for five years (but always used a back-up).

Pregnancy scares are no fun. In order for you to not feel so paranoid in the future, maybe your boyfriend should start wearing condoms as well as a back-up.

What bothers me the most about your post is the fact that your boyfriend won't talk to you about this. If you he can't talk to you about something that upsets you, or discuss what would happen if you became pregnant, then perhaps you shouldn't be sleeping with him. Especially if all he can think of is how this is going to "ruin his life". What would he do if you actually did get pregnant?

Its not that he can't talk to me about it, its just he is scared, we are both only 20 and live with our parents, it would be an awful thing to happen.

If I was to get pregnant, he said he would stay with me

[snowfallsoon]

Christ, Hans stop being such a jerk. She should not have to defend her relationship to you.
I can't believe the way some of you act towards her, making jokes when she's obviously
pretty scared. Idiots.

[Superhans]

Christ, Hans stop being such a jerk. She should not have to defend her relationship to you.
I can't believe the way some of you act towards her, making jokes when she's obviously
pretty scared. Idiots.

If she is going to put everything about her private life on here for anyone to read about that why can't I say what I like?

[Quiffaa]

Dear (((((GirlAfraid23))))),

unless you have a special 'mini-pill'
a few hours don't make a difference*.

So I'd say 'don't panic' .

If you want to be extremly safe

call/ visit your gynecologist. A call might suffice, but anyway, she can do a pregnancy test for you for free /costs in pharmacy.
do a pregnancy test yourself->buy it at a pharmacy


You might think about putting ungentle people on 'ignore'

* vomiting or diarrhoea are different: they might disturb effects of the pill

[Virgil Tracy]

If she is going to put everything about her private life on here for anyone to read about that why can't I say what I like?

Common curtsey mate. Don’t post stuff on here that you wouldn’t be prepared to say to someone in public.

Just makes the world a slightly more bearable place.

[Quiffaa]

*sings in Superhans' direction *

'it takes courage to be gentle and kind ...'

[snowfallsoon]

If she is going to put everything about her private life on here for anyone to read about that why can't I say what I like?


Because, it was mean and uncalled for? Is your point of view that, if someone on this forum posts something about their private life, (which a fair amount of us do), that makes them fair game for someone to say what they like? No matter how mean spirited?
I don't understand why someone would want to be that way, or what enjoyment they'd get from it.

[GirlAfraid23]

Thanks guys for the nice and helpful comments!!!

Some people on here are just nasty...apparently I have made an enemy on here in superhans, no idea why though.

[Superhans]

Because, it was mean and uncalled for? Is your point of view that, if someone on this forum posts something about their private life, (which a fair amount of us do), that makes them fair game for someone to say what they like? No matter how mean spirited?
I don't understand why someone would want to be that way, or what enjoyment they'd get from it.

Yes, basically. I don't expect anyone to actually care about anything anyone says. I also don't expect people to go asking for strangers' advice on their love life problems. (Hardly a problem yet is it anyway btw?!) I suppose people are just 'weird'.... (Smiths fans will like being called that)

No wonder, I can only come back to this place at any given moment for about 4 posts...never have I come across a bunch of people who take themselves and everyone else so seriously.

[Superhans]

Thanks guys for the nice and helpful comments!!!

Some people on here are just nasty...apparently I have made an enemy on here in superhans, no idea why though.

Lmao! 'An enemy'...get a grip.

[GirlAfraid23]

Lmao! 'An enemy'...get a grip.

God, you are mean, well whatever, you have a quote of mine in your signature...obsessed much??

[desmoface]

Well, you are "Girlafraid." Seriously, I hope everything works out in your favour. I would take the advice of the others here, get a pregnancy test or go to your dr. Good luck.

Steve


:( dont guys, im scared!!!!

I'm only 20

[GirlAfraid23]

Yes, basically. I don't expect anyone to actually care about anything anyone says. I also don't expect people to go asking for strangers' advice on their love life problems. (Hardly a problem yet is it anyway btw?!) I suppose people are just 'weird'.... (Smiths fans will like being called that)

No wonder, I can only come back to this place at any given moment for about 4 posts...never have I come across a bunch of people who take themselves and everyone else so seriously.

No, it was the fact that you made the assumption that my boyfriend doesn't love me which is quite a big comment to make to somebody that you "don't even know" surely?
You know nothing about my life and I only posted in here because I had been googling etc and that was just making my fears worse so I thought I'd ask some people with perhaps real help, advice and experiences on the matter as I can't really speak to anybody else about it in my "real life". I'm sorry if that offends you

[Superhans]

God, you are mean, well whatever, you have a quote of mine in your signature...obsessed much??

So obsessed that I've only made 8 posts in this forum in about 6 months. Stop being stupid, please.

[GirlAfraid23]

So obsessed that I've only made 8 posts in this forum in about 6 months. Stop being stupid, please.

Um...I meant obsessed with me, it seems that you are, whenever I make a post, you are first to jump in there and insult me

[snowfallsoon]

Yes, basically. I don't expect anyone to actually care about anything anyone says. I also don't expect people to go asking for strangers' advice on their love life problems. (Hardly a problem yet is it anyway btw?!) I suppose people are just 'weird'.... (Smiths fans will like being called that)

No wonder, I can only come back to this place at any given moment for about 4 posts...never have I come across a bunch of people who take themselves and everyone else so seriously.

We're not all strangers though. Some of us actually know each other in real life! So don't assume she's asking a bunch of strangers. And yes, this place can get so dramatic it's silly, but there are also people here who care about and support their friends. Sorry you haven't found that here, but, now I will make an assumption about you, you don't seem to need people anyway.
The things you say about us-say more about YOU.

[snowfallsoon]

Um...I meant obsessed with me, it seems that you are, whenever I make a post, you are first to jump in there and insult me

Forget him GirlAfraid. Him calling you stupid means he's run out of
anything intelligent to say. Keep moving.

[someofusisturningnasty]

So obsessed that I've only made 8 posts in this forum in about 6 months. Stop being stupid, please.

:D

welcome back.

[Superhans]

We're not all strangers though. Some of us actually know each other in real life! So don't assume she's asking a bunch of strangers. And yes, this place can get so dramatic it's silly, but there are also people here who care about and support their friends. Sorry you haven't found that here, but, now I will make an assumption about you, you don't seem to need people anyway.
The things you say about us-say more about YOU.

Please, tell me what that says about me. I like to be analysed on da interwebs.

[Superhans]

:D

welcome back.

Thanks, m8! Getting lots of grief here. Do you reckon if I changed my name to 'supergirl', called people mean and did lots of sad faces people will stand up for me?! :D

[snowfallsoon]

Please, tell me what that says about me. I like to be analysed on da interwebs.

Oh noes ya don't sweetheart.

Yes, welcome back, apologies for the delayed welcoming.

[someofusisturningnasty]

Thanks, m8! Getting lots of grief here. Do you reckon if I changed my name to 'supergirl', called people mean and did lots of sad faces people will stand up for me?! :D

...or posted lots of pictures of you "mysteriously" pouting at the camera in the members pics section with ":blushing: :blushing: tee hee oh im so ugly yet confident enough to post my picture here for judgement" :thumb:

[Cassius]

Its not that he can't talk to me about it, its just he is scared, we are both only 20 and live with our parents, it would be an awful thing to happen.

If I was to get pregnant, he said he would stay with me

Okay, good. The way you worded it raised some red flags. How are you feeling today? :)

[Hellie]

Doubt very much if your pregnant...go get a morning after pill it works up to 72 hours after although longer its left less effective....you can order them from Lloyds Chemist online with no pescription.

[EPbabe]

Pee on a stick.

This. Bear in mind though that the pregnancy should be at least of 10 days so that it can be shown by any tests (even bloodtest). Plus you're taking hormones that make it impossible for you to get pregnant, so I'd say your symptoms are simply phsychosomatic.


I can't even talk to my boyfriend about it because he will freak out! He already said it would ruin his life if I ever became pregnant :(

Want help? Leave him. What an asshole, really.

[Daddy Cool]

If being pregnant would be such a nightmare for you, how about you just don't have unprotected sex? You reap what you sew.

[snowfallsoon]

Go back and read the thread a few more times. Slowly.

And learn how to spell.

[Disappointed]

First off, if you and your boyfriend are really concerned with you getting pregnant, then start using condoms in addition to the Pill.

Secondly, if you ever have unprotected sex again (forgot to take your Pill one day, don't use condoms, the condom breaks, etc.) get the "Morning After Pill" (aka "Plan B", though there are other brands on the market) as soon as possible. It's most effective up to 72 hours after sex, though, the sooner you take it, the more effective it is. It's a pill or two (again, depends on what brand you're given) that either keeps you from releasing an ovum, or prevents a fertilized ovum from implanting itself in the uterine wall, depending on how long after sex you take it.

You can either go right to the chemist/pharmacy and get the Morning After Pill there, or you can go to your doctor, and they can either write you a prescription that you can take to the chemist, or they can actually give you the pill there.

Thirdly, the way that the birth control pill works is that it releases hormones that fool your body into believing that it's pregnant when it isn't. That's how it prevents pregnancy--your body thinks that it's pregnant, so it doesn't release any ova. So, you can, while on the Pill, experience symptoms that a pregnant woman might have, such as "morning sickness". You might also experience a loss of libido while on the Pill, as well as some other symptoms.

Finally, I was concerned when you said that you went onto this message board to talk about this, because you don't have anyone in your real life to talk about it with. That isn't a good thing. Can you talk to your mother about this? How about some female friends? A pregnancy scare is not a good thing to go through alone. You need to talk about it, face-to-face, with some other women who have been through it before, not with faceless people on the internet who don't know you from Eve.

[Daddy Cool]

Go back and read the thread a few more times. Slowly.

And learn how to spell.

Was that "learn how to spell" aimed at me?

Do you have an education to speak of?

http://www.goenglish.com/idioms/youreapwhatyousew+proverb+you+reap+what+you+sew.as p

[snowfallsoon]

Was that "learn how to spell" aimed at me?

Do you have an education to speak of?

http://www.goenglish.com/idioms/youreapwhatyousew+proverb+you+reap+what+you+sew.as p


This is cool, Daddy:

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sew

http://www.english-for-students.com/Reap-What-You-Sew.html

[Cassius]

Finally, I was concerned when you said that you went onto this message board to talk about this, because you don't have anyone in your real life to talk about it with. That isn't a good thing. Can you talk to your mother about this? How about some female friends? A pregnancy scare is not a good thing to go through alone. You need to talk about it, face-to-face, with some other women who have been through it before, not with faceless people on the internet who don't know you from Eve.

I can understand where she's coming from. I have very, very few friends in real life, because I have problems making friends, trusting people, etc. I've posted about several problems on Solo, because I have more friends on here than I do in real life. I agree that it's not a good thing, and I would like to have more friends, but I can understand why she would post something like that on here.

For what it's worth, I really do care for my Solo friends. When I posted my wedding date on Facebook (see, I can socialize long enough to get a boyfriend :lbf:), several of them messaged me to help me find a dress. One even offered to lend me hers. There are some good people on here, while I've had a hard time finding people as kind as them at home.

[snowfallsoon]

I can understand where she's coming from. I have very, very few friends in real life, because I have problems making friends, trusting people, etc. I've posted about several problems on Solo, because I have more friends on here than I do in real life. I agree that it's not a good thing, and I would like to have more friends, but I can understand why she would post something like that on here.

For what it's worth, I really do care for my Solo friends. When I posted my wedding date on Facebook (see, I can socialize long enough to get a boyfriend :lbf:), several of them messaged me to help me find a dress. One even offered to lend me hers. There are some good people on here, while I've had a hard time finding people as kind as them at home.

Me too, very much understand it. Haven't been sorry to have become friends with anyone here.

[troubleluvsme]

I can understand where she's coming from. I have very, very few friends in real life, because I have problems making friends, trusting people, etc. I've posted about several problems on Solo, because I have more friends on here than I do in real life. I agree that it's not a good thing, and I would like to have more friends, but I can understand why she would post something like that on here.

For what it's worth, I really do care for my Solo friends. When I posted my wedding date on Facebook (see, I can socialize long enough to get a boyfriend :lbf:), several of them messaged me to help me find a dress. One even offered to lend me hers. There are some good people on here, while I've had a hard time finding people as kind as them at home.

Me too.

We should find a centrally located area and colonize....start a compound or something.

[Cassius]

Me too.

We should find a centrally located area and colonize....start a compound or something.

It would be fun until someone tried to cook hot dogs. :eek:

[snowfallsoon]

Me too.

We should find a centrally located area and colonize....start a compound or something.

a compound of furries! :eek:

[Cassius]

a compound of furries! :eek:

Was this your sick plan all along trubz? To turn us into furries? For shame! :mad:

[snowfallsoon]

Was this your sick plan all along trubz? To turn us into furries? For shame! :mad:

Yes, I'm not dressing up like that for anyone....

[troubleluvsme]

It would be fun until someone tried to cook hot dogs. :eek:

Yeah...maybe we're better off online.
We could have a TV show and it would definitely be a better show than some of the other Reality TV.



a compound of furries! :eek:


Was this your sick plan all along trubz? To turn us into furries? For shame! :mad:

Nooooo....I only just heard of furries. That's why my thread said WTF???
I feel really stupid for not knowing about them already.

Funny thing is, you all seem to be experts. :lbf:

[snowfallsoon]

Yeah...maybe we're better off online.
We could have a TV show and it would definitely be a better show than some of the other Reality TV.






Nooooo....I only just heard of furries. That's why my thread said WTF???
I feel really stupid for not knowing about them already.

Funny thing is, you all seem to be experts. :lbf:

Hey I just organize the conventions! It was hard not to overhear a little of what was said!

[jamescagney]

Not sure if I should be posting here about this but need some advice anyway...Basically me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex the other morning I am on the pill, but took it a few hours late that day...now I am worried as I am getting constant hunger pangs, even when i've just eaten and cravings for odd foods

I offer free OB/GYN exams. I can even do it over the Internet with your webcam.

[CrystalGeezer]

:eek:

[jamescagney]

:eek:

Oh, BTW, your results came back negative. We appreciate your patronage.

[GirlAfraid23]

Thanks everyone for those who had helpful comments yesterday.

I did not take a pregnancy test however I have an appointment at my family planning clinic next week. I am going to discuss it then. At the moment I'm not as worried, still getting the hunger pangs and nausea but I'm hoping that is the pill or stress!

Thanks everyone anyway